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\n\nJanzen, K. J., & Melrose, S. (2013). When the worst imaginable becomes reality: The experience of child custody loss in mothers recovering from addictions. Janus Head<\/em>. 13(1), 176-213.\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\n\nThis article describes findings from a qualitative study that investigated the lived experiences of four mothers recovering from crack cocaine addictions who lost custody of their children. The project was guided by feminist interpretive inquiry, van Manen\u2019s approach to hermeneutic phenomenology, and involved thematic analysis of in depth interview data. By telling the stories of these women and using their own words as well as interpretive poetry written by one of the authors to describe their suffering, our research offers important insights to professionals involved in the field of addictions.\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\nFor many women, becoming a mother is seen as one of life\u2019s most rewarding experiences\u2014one that they may look toward from their own very childhoods. Having children changes not only how women view their own personal lives, but also how they see themselves in a broader social context (Stenius, Veysey, Hamiliton & Anderson, 2005). For the addicted mother, this role becomes a source of ambiguity, strain and conflict when she finds herself trying to choose between being a mother and using substances (Brady, Black & Greenfield, 2009). According to the Canadian Mental Health Association (2011) and Streetworks (2011) (a harm reduction\/needle exchange program), child custody loss has been described by mothers with mental health issues and addictions as the worst imaginable outcome of substance abuse. To date, the voices of recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children are not represented in existing literature. In this article, we advocate for this group of marginalized women by sharing their experiences with the worst possible outcome of their addiction, losing custody of their children.\n\nThis article is a culmination of the quest to (1) give \u2018voice\u2019 and, perhaps hope, to women who find themselves grappling with child custody loss, and to (2) provide insight into the complexity of these mother\u2019s experiences for professionals who treat and come in contact with them.\n\nTo provide context for the mothers\u2019 stories, we begin by presenting background literature that explores the ideology of motherhood; constructs a composite picture of the addicted mother; delineates child welfare and court practices; discusses trends in addiction treatment and ramifications of child custody loss; and comments on resilience in recovering mothers. This literature underscores the no-win situation addicted mothers can experience. Next, we describe our research approach and emphasize three themes. First, mothers experience feelings of betrayal; second, soul- ache; and third, reclamation when they experience child custody loss. By representing our data with interpretive poetry arising from the transcripts written by Katherine Joyce Janzen (KJJ), one of the researchers as well as participants\u2019 verbatim comments to tell the mothers\u2019 stories, we are able to depict the richness of their experiences. Finally, we discuss the implications of our findings.\n\nThe following poem, written by KJJ, is addressed to our research participants and expresses our commitment to advocacy, to providing context, to giving voice, and to allowing them to find their own strengths.\n

QUEST<\/h4>\n

You have shared\nYour life,\nYour story,\nYour soul.\nI now act\nAs an advocate\nFor you.\nI will be your voice.\nYour story\nWill live on\nBeyond the borders\nOf your spoken words;\nTouching others\nWith its\nProfoundness.<\/p>\n\n

Literature<\/em> Review\n<\/em>The Ideology of Motherhood<\/em><\/h1>\nThe ideology of motherhood holds a variety of different meanings. For almost all mothers, the attempt to navigate the \u2018road of motherhood\u2019 can be filled with potholes and fissures as motherhood is both glorified and demeaned (Dunlap, Sturzenhofecker & Johnson, 2006) in a carefully constructed \u201cgender system\u201d of social and cultural roles (Haddock, Zimmerman & Lyness, 2003). While becoming and being a mother is often romanticized, for centuries society has pathologized, demonized and demeaned mothers and presented them as failures as they reach to fulfill impossible expectations (Caplan, 2001; Dunlap et al., 2006; Irwin, Thorne\n\n& Varcoe, 2002; Litzke, 2004). Patriarchal systems, including those of law and custom, have judged and controlled mothers in terms of extensive idealization, scrutinization and denigration in their roles and behaviours (Reid, Greaves & Poole, 2008). Choices in motherhood are further constrained by power imbalances (gender, class, and ethnicity) and social roles which offer a perplexing medium where there exist many choices\u2014 none of which are easy (Dunlap et al., 2006). These include being\/not being a mother, lesbian mothering, whether to use reproductive technologies, issues of balancing work with the constraints of extended families, being a single mother\/parent, and potential poverty (Glenn, Change & Forcey, 1995).\n\nThe distance between the polarities of \u2018ideal mothering\u2019 and \u2018real mothering\u2019 further constricts the rights of mothers; significant conflict arises between legal and social responses to mothers who are deemed by society to \u201cbehave badly\u201d (Reid et al., 2008) such as addicted mothers or mothers who neglect and abuse their children (Chelsler, 2011). Mothers who fail to live up to the stereotypical ideals and roles that society assigns, especially in terms of femininity and motherhood, exacts severe social stigma (Beck, 2006). This social stigma is further typified in the labels that addicted mothers are given.\n

A Composite Picture of the Addicted Mother<\/em><\/h1>\nIn our review of the literature we observed a pattern where mothers tended to be polarized into either \u201cgood mothers\u201d or \u201cbad mothers\u201d (Brown, 2006). In North America, the stereotypical image of a \u201cgood mother\u201d as is severely challenged and delegitimized when mothers abuse substances such as illicit drugs and alcohol (Caplan, 2001; Litzke, 2004).\n\n[A good] \u201cmother is one who is expected to perform a limited number of tasks all of which are never ending. Mothers are not allowed to fail any of these obligations. [This] ideal of motherhood is sacred; it exposes all mothers as imperfect. (Chelser, 2011, p. 48).\n
\n\nThis imperfection is even more pronounced with the addicted mother. Not only does substance use conflict with the traditional female role, it is also considered to be deviant (Powis, Gossop, Bury, Payne & Griffiths, 2000). This deviance is perpetuated and socially constructed in popular media (Meyers, 2004) and within the medical and nursing profession (Marcellus, 2003). Mothers with addictions have been stereotyped as \u201cshe devils\u201d or \u201csexual\u2026 Jezebel[s] who [threaten] the lives and safety of [their] born and unborn children\u201d (Meyers, 2004, p. 194). This has resulted in substance using mothers being given various labels including \u201cgood, bad, thwarted, [and\/or] addicted\u201d as they strive but often fail to meet the \u2018ideal\u2019 of mothering (Reid et al., 2008, p. 211).\n\nThus the addicted mother eventually is forced to see herself as either a \u2018good mother\u2019 or a \u2018bad mother\u2019 (Brown, 2006). An addicted woman\u2019s view of being a \u2018good mother\u2019 often is tied to \u201ctrying to do the right thing for their children\u201d (Reid et al, 2008, p. 231). Reid and colleagues support our observation by noting that these women are \u201cvery aware of the powerful social forces that have clear images of \u2018good mother\u2019 and \u2018bad mother\u2019 and often [try] to position themselves as mothers attempting to do good in a system and society that does not value or assist them\u201d (p. 231). In her attempts to continue mothering her children, she may live with very high levels of shame, guilt, and self-blame due to her own perceptions of being an inadequate parent (Coyer, 2001). Even with emerging research which supports the presence of adequate parenting skills in addicted mothers (Doris, Meguid, Thomas, Blatt & Eschenrode, 2006; Huxley & Foulger, 2008), these mothers are further marginalized by social service and health care professionals (Brown, 2006), who deem them \u201cunfit\u201d (Powis et al., 2000; Smith, 2006). Shackled by these constraints, the addicted mother often eventually sees herself as being \u201cweak\u201d and \u201cmorally corrupt\u201d\u2014 paralleling society\u2019s view of her (Litzke, 2004).\n\nSocial pressures and situational constraints often create conditions where addiction becomes a tool for survival. Intense poverty, homelessness, social isolation, violent relationships, inadequate food\/provisions, and a lack of care for their children often perpetuate addiction (Dunlap et al., 2006). Substance abusing mothers are often further impacted by intergenerational patterns of substance abuse, mental illness, and physical and\/or sexual abuse (Cash & Wilke, 2003) which results in further societal stigmatization (Suchman, McMahon, Slade & Luthar, 2005). These significant constraints are felt by society to be solely the problem of the mother and have no bearing on the \u2018system\u2019 or society at large further victimizing and vilifying the addicted mother (Reid et al., 2008). Litzke (2004) aptly describes addiction as \u201cdehumanizing;\u201d mothers are \u201chailed as addicts\u201d instead of human beings (Aston, 2009, p. 611).\n\n<\/div>\nDespite all the barriers and constraints that these mothers face, the role of motherhood provides a sense of stability in recovery (Hiersteiner, 2004). Addicted mothers struggle with feelings about having and keeping their children (Suchman et al., 2005). These feelings result in the presence of considerable conflict which centres on their drug dependence and the fear of losing custody of their children (Powis et al., 2000). Giving up her children is seen as a mother\u2019s last possible resort (Coyer, 2001). Clearly, mothers are significantly impacted by the fear of losing custody of their children in their experiences with courts and child welfare agencies.\n
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The Courts and Contemporary Child Welfare Practices<\/em><\/h1>\nIn the United States and Great Britain, 25% to 69% of addicted mothers see their children being placed in foster care or kinship programs (Kovalesky, 2001; Litzke, 2004). In the United States 33% of child welfare cases result in permanent custody loss while Canada\u2019s 2004 statistics reveal 62% of all children taken into care have permanent guardianship orders (European University Association, n.d.) which is an increase of five percent from 1999 (Human Resources Skills Development Canada, 2000). In multi-national studies, Canada has the highest rate of child placement (Mulchay & Trocm\u00e9, 2010). Rural areas in Canada see children placed at twice the rate of those in urban communities (Budeau, Barniuk, Fallon & Black, 2009). Canadian statistics portray 32% of children being removed from homes led by single mothers with alcohol or drug\/solvent use (Trocm\u00e9 et al., 2005). There has been a shift in which pregnant women now make up 30% of the overall cases mandated in court (Terplan, Smith, Kozloksi & Pollack, 2010).\n\nRigid restrictions have been in effect for over 10 years in the United States that cause permanency hearings (for permanent guardianship by the State) to be enacted after 12 months, and parental rights terminated if a child is in foster care for longer than 15 months (Smith, 2006; Semidei, Radel & Nolan, 2001). In Canada, children can spend up to three years waiting for a permanency decision which arguably creates a scenario where the children are literally in \u201climbo\u201d and constrains the development of secure attachments (Knoke, 2009). Given this situation, in the authors\u2019 jurisdiction, when three temporary guardianship orders have been in place, the child(ren) are either placed permanently or returned to their parent(s) (Alberta Children\u2019s Services, 2007). In both the United States and Canada, there has been a move in the judicial system to shorten these timelines in an effort to enforce quicker permanency decisions (Alberta Children and Youth Services, 2009; Semidei et al., 2001).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nDespite the presence of adequate parenting capabilities, mothers who become totally abstinent are still considered to be high risk by the child welfare system (Reid et al., 2008). Social workers\u2019 professional relationships with addicted mothers are often strained, even confrontational, with social workers enforcing their own agenda, and paying little attention to the concerns of the mother (Forrester, McCambridge, Waissbeing & Rollinick, 2008). The understanding of both the court and child welfare agencies related to addictions\/addictions treatment is deemed lacking which translates into a lack of a \u201cjust and equitable standard\u201d for working with recovering mothers (Burman, 2004; Kruk, 2008; Smith, 2006). Risk assessment remains a contentious issue but there have been attempts to use a strengths-based harm reduction model (Weaver, 2009). This model sees recovery as a continuum where social workers meet addicted mothers \u201cwhere they are at\u201d (Kullar, 2009, p. 10). It is of note that advances in addictions treatment programs are beginning to act as a bridge between child welfare and the courts.\n

T<\/em>r<\/em>ends in Addictions Treatment<\/em><\/h1>\nRecovery from addictions is not a straightforward process. While the medical model (complete abstinence) continues to guide many treatment philosophies, advances have been made in addiction treatment. The harm reduction model (relapse being a temporary condition) is increasingly gaining acceptance on a global level (Burman, 2004; Snow & Delaney, 2006). Gender-responsive treatment is another trend that has emerged since the 1990\u2019s, and this model attempts to mediate the complexities of addiction in the context of gender roles, sexism, poverty, and other environmental issues (Grella, 2008). Before 2004, however, models which involved mothers and their children had not yet emerged (Cash & Wilke, 2004).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nModels of treatment that include not only family members, but also children, have become more common (Werner, Young, Dennis & Amateri, 2007). This shift in thinking reflects the profoundly negative impact that occurs when, in order to gain access to treatment, mothers are separated from their children (Barry, 2006a; Beck, 2006). In recent years, residential recovery programs have been offering programs and services that allow children to stay with their mother while she engages in recovery (VanDeMark, O\u2019Keefe, Finkleseing & Gampel, 2005; Worley, Conners, Williams & Bokony, 2005). A call for multi-disciplinary teams that can share their expertise in terms of child welfare requirements and issues while concurrently treating the mother\u2019s substance abuse remains (Knoke, 2009). Once again, this reflects a pattern in the literature where the voices of women themselves are not represented.\n

The Ramifications of Child Custody Loss<\/em><\/h1>\nChild custody loss has profound ramifications. There is very little known about mothers who are recovering from addictions who lose custody of their children. For mothers, the consequences of court-mandated treatment can leave them feeling powerless and victimized (Burman, 2004). Experiencing being labelled an \u201cunfit mother\u201d similarly results in intensified levels of stress, denial, depression, anger, and intense emotional pain (Barry, 2006b; Concoran, 2001; Shillington, Hohman & Jones, 2001). This emotional pain can become even more pronounced when a mother loses custody (Barry, 2006b). Further, the emotional turmoil often triggers increased impulses to seek relief through substance use (Schleuderer & Campangna, 2002) and feelings of traumatisation intensify (Rockhill et al., 2008). Custody loss severely undermines a recovering mother\u2019s hope that her children will ever be returned to her (Rockhill et al., 2008). Irwin et al.\u2019s (2002) research revealed that having children physically with her gives mothers the strength to make difficult decisions. The children act as a major motivator to continue recovery (Grella, 2008; Kovalesky, 2001) and as such custody loss can have a significant impact on mothers\u2019 efforts to recover.\n

Resilience<\/em> in Recovering Mothers<\/em><\/h1>\nThere are only a handful of studies addressing resilience in recovering mothers. Despite the paucity of research, the results of these studies offer more insight into these women\u2019s\u2019 lives. Recently, Sutherland, Cook, Stetina & Hernandez (2009) looked at problem solving skills and coping strategies as a measure of resilience in addicted and non-addicted mothers. They found that recovering women overall are less resilient than their counterparts who are not chemically dependent. However these researchers also found that the very custodial status of a mother\u2019s children seemed to be protective: recovering mothers who had custody of their children had greater treatment completions and decreased substance use in the post-recovery period.\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nIn an earlier study, Hardesty and Black (1999) also identified that the presence of children became the marker of successful recovery where \u201cmotherhood served as a survival strategy\u201d (p. 609). Children consistently remained a central focus in the lives of their mothers\u2014even when custody was lost permanently. The emotional bonds created a sense of permanency as the mothers focused on what they viewed as a temporary physical separation. The primary motive of recovery then became a regaining and re-claiming of their children. Consistently, the mothers in this study reported that the worst possible outcome that could occur was having their children taken away permanently.\n\nParis and Bradley (2001) found mothers who had lost custody of their children told stories of \u201chope and resilience\u201d (p. 663). Both Hardesty and Black (1999) and Paris and Bradley (2001) cited that a fundamental task of recovery was re-negotiating a maternal identity. Mohatt, Rasmuss, Thomas, Allen, Hazel and Marlatt\u2019s (2007) study reaffirmed Hardesty and Black\u2019s (1999) conclusions that resilience in addicted mothers was tied to a sense of interconnectedness with family\/kin. Despite this interconnectedness, mothers are still ultimately positioned within a no-win situation.\n\nBoth the courts and addiction treatment centers desire early reunifications, but reunifications are hampered by the short timelines that currently exist within the judicial system (Hohman & Butt, 2001). Mothers feel substantial pressure to improve their parenting abilities and to stabilize their lives. But the very requirements for programs and services that are meant to help addicted mothers are \u201cambiguous, incomprehensible, or put [the mothers themselves] at risk\u201d (Reid et al., 2008, p. 224). The social services system for addicted mothers is \u201call-powerful,\u201d and a source of \u201cconstant surveillance\u201d as mothers live under the relentless \u201cthreat of having their children apprehended\u201d which results in a \u201cconstant source of fear which instilled distrust and powerlessness in the face of \u201d social services (p. 224).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nAttempts to use their identities as mothers to drive their recovery may become focused on constantly renegotiating the meaning of what it means to be a \u2018good\u2019 mother. There exists a platform where the labels of \u2018good mother\u2019 and \u2018bad mother\u2019 exist almost simultaneously in the literature. Hardesty and Black (1999) explain that an addicted mother needs to retain a \u201cview of self as a good mother despite the addition\u2026 as a self-survival tool\u201d (p. 609) and without this image she falls into a \u201cnumbing surrender to self-destruction\u201d (p. 607). The literature is divided on the parenting capabilities of addicted mothers as well as the presence\/ absence of healthy relationships with their children (Doris et al., 2006; Huxley & Foulger, 2008). Thus, creating a definitive and accurate portrait of a typical addicted mother is difficult. Despite inconsistencies among research findings, existing literature does provide us with a picture of recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children as women who feel deeply ambiguous. The aim of our study was to expand understanding of this ambiguity and for us to provide a platform to give voice to recovering mothers who may have been \u2018silenced\u2019 as a result of losing their children. As Davis and Dodd (2002) assert, \u2018silence\u2019 remains a significant barrier to understanding women\u2019s experiences, especially in sensitive-topic research. In sum, this literature review reveals much professional dialogue rather than the women\u2019s own voices.\n

The Research Approach\n<\/em>Feminist<\/em> Paradigmatic<\/em> and Theoretical Assumptions<\/em><\/h1>\nThe feminist paradigm is considered to either fall beneath the umbrella of the interpretive paradigm (Jansen & Davis, 1998), deemed as a theory (Creswell, 2007), or stand on its own as a distinctive worldview (Wilkinson & Morton, 2007). As a paradigm, feminist ontology theorizes \u201cbeing\u201d and in doing so rejects Cartesian duality and instead focuses on body, mind and emotion (Stanley & Wise, 1993). Stanley and Wise (1993) describe reality in this sense as the \u2018self \u2019 where reality is \u201crelationally and interactionally composed\u201d, having historic, contextual, and cultural influences where reality \u201csubtly change[s] in different interactional circumstances\u201d (p. 195).   In relation to epistemology, the most central concept relates to there being a \u201csituated knower\u201d and therefore \u201csituated knowledge\u201d (Stanford University, 2009). The relationship between the known and the knower therefore, is one of establishing a mutual conversational relationship of trust where the \u2018known\u2019 discloses his\/her own personal experiences in an effort to be transparent, and the \u2018knower\u2019 in reciprocity is empowered, validated, and strengthened as she shares her experiences (Jansen & Davis, 1998).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nKey assumptions of an interpretive-feminist paradigm are: the acknowledgement of the pervasive influence of gender, a primary focus on \u201cconsciousness raising\u201d, a rejection of a separation of subject\/ object, denunciation of the \u201cassumption that most personal experience is unscientific\u201d, an unwavering concern for ethical implications of one\u2019s research, and unequivocally (through research) women can be empowered and transformed (Milojevic et al., 2008 p. 8). Frisby et al. (2009) further add that as \u201cmultiple sources of oppression are embodied and experienced on a daily basis\u201d (p. 19-20) by women, an assumption exists that a feminist paradigm creates a meaningful framework for making \u201csense of the physical, spiritual, and social worlds and for envisioning meaningful actions for social changes\u201d (p. 15). Finally, Milojevic et al. (2008) cites that the feminist worldview is a means for \u201caltering\u201d the human condition.\n

Feminist<\/em> Interpretive Inquiry<\/em><\/h1>\nFeminist interpretive inquiry has an end result of a conscious mindfulness of power in terms of gender, but also promotes trust, creates a platform for individual stories to be told, and allows for holistic findings that are not necessarily captured by qualitative research (Elmir, Schmied, Jackson & Wilkes, 2009; Jansen & Davis, 1998). One of the key strengths of feminist inquiry as the giving of voice to voiceless silenced populations (Frisby et al., 2009; Oakley, 1998) who have lived under a \u201cframework of invisibility, marginalization and powerlessness\u201d (Jansen & Davis, 1998, p. 294). Jansen and Davis (1998) cite other strengths of feminist interpretive inquiry such as: supplying the context of the experience, focusing on the strengths of the participants, diminishing hierarchy, de-emphasizing hierarchy, promoting an atmosphere of mutual understanding by allowing the participants to share in the experiences of the researcher, and signalling a non-judgemental stance.\n\nOakley (1998) cites that the primary limitations of the feminist paradigm are bias and validity. Although the intentions of qualitative research exclude generalizability, a small sample size can signal bias in terms of false inferences when viewing the placement of the story in a wider social and political context (Oakley, 1998; Skene, 2007). Validity can come into question in terms of the veracity of the participant\u2019s stories (Oakley, 1998; Porter, 2007). Feminist researchers \u201cchallenge detachment and objectivity\u201d which may be seen as a bias within itself where the researcher seeks to understand the ways that a research topic is \u201cautobiographical\u201d (Glense, 2006, p. 119).\n\n<\/div>\n
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Hermeneutic<\/em> Phenomenology\n<\/em>Hermeneutical<\/em> Paradigmatic<\/em> and Theoretical Assumptions<\/em><\/h1>\nHermeneutics is grounded in the interpretive paradigm (Rapport & Wainwright, 2006) which encompasses distinctive assumptions related to ontology, epistemology, and methodology (Koch, 1996; Shah & Corley, 2006). The ontology of hermeneutics is a conviction that truth is founded on relativism where truth is \u201ccomposed of multiple local and specific realities\u201d (Weaver & Olson, 2006, p. 462). Epistemologically, reality is established intersubjectively or with a \u201cshared subjective awareness and understanding\u201d (p. 462). Methodology reflects the progression of constant revision where theory emerges inductively and the principal goals are understanding and change in a social world that esteems the promotion of practical knowledge.\n\nKey assumptions of interpretive inquiry include: understanding as a key outcome, a acceptance that the world is contextual, holistic inquiry, narrative description, investigation as context laden, theory and practice being interactive and specific, and the presence of a participator- researcher relationship (Bridges, n.d.). Assumptions that are explicit to hermeneutics are: the existence of a distinct interpretation (Shah & Corley, 2006), common life experiences presenting a fertile medium for the study of meaning, a focus on human experience rather than conscious understanding, and the \u201cpresupposition of expert knowledge on the part of the researcher\u201d being a \u201cvaluable guide to inquiry\u201d (Lopez & Willis, 2004, p. 729).\n\n<\/div>\n
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Melding<\/em> Hermeneutic Phenomenology with Feminist Interpretive Inquiry<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\nA melding of hermeneutic phenomenology with interpretive feminist inquiry complements hermeneutic phenomenology in several ways. \u201cHermeneutic phenomenology [from the perspective of van Manen (1997)] is quite amenable to feminist forms of knowing, inquiry and writing\u201d (p. xviii). Both are based upon the construct of \u201cbeing\u201d (Stanely & Wise, 1993; Heidegger, 1962). Ceci (2003) describes that \u201cfacets of feminist thought...have drawn attention to the politics of knowledge through theorizing the significance and the situatedness of knowers and knowledge\u201d and thereby by viewing our characters as \u201cmeaning- constituting [it stresses] the interpretive nature of our being in the world\u201d (p. 63). Hermeneutical phenomenology as a \u201cphilosophy of actions\u201d has the potential to not only \u201cradicalize thought\u201d but make a difference in the world (van Manen, 1997) by giving voice to the women who may feel \u201csilenced\u201d as a result of losing their children (Davies & Dodd, 2002). This is highly congruent with the aims of feminist thought where \u201cfeminism is a program for social change... and [offers an] alternative vision [for] the future\u201d (Milojevic et al., 2008, p. 1).\n\nRather than the theoretical, abstract detachment that is characteristic of empirical research, hermeneutics is both a science and art form where the researcher and the researched, as co-creators, intimately engage with each other in the \u201cpragmatic and poetical\u201d (Barnacle, 2001; Litchman, n.d.). Interpretive feminism enhances this view where researcher and researched meet on equal ground. \u201cTrust is built not just for the purpose of collecting meaningful data, but for a human purpose in relationships\u201d which sees the participant and the researcher \u201cenrich each other\u2019s lives\u201d (Jansen & Davis, 1998, p. 308). Finally we believe, as did Heidegger (1962), that it is impossible to bracket one\u2019s own life experiences, values and assumptions\u2014 a conviction that the writers\u2019 own \u201clife-worlds\u201d can enhance the study as the research process unfolds\u2014a precept held in high regard within the interpretive feminist paradigm.\n

Additional<\/em> Considerations of Research\nResearcher Subjectivity<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\nWhen choosing a phenomenological tradition for this research, immediately the question of researcher subjectivity arose. In the Husseralian tradition, the researcher brackets his\/her pre-understandings and in effect \u2018divorce\u2019s\u2019 the research from these influences (Smythe, Ironside, Simms, Swensen & Spence, 2008). We felt it was impossible to tell the \u2018story\u2019 without recognizing that we are both mothers and that being a mother and caring for our children is at the heart of all we do. Deciding to use van Manen\u2019s (1997) method was conducive to this end as our experiences are honored and valued in this phenomenological tradition. Investigating the experience as it was lived involved using our own personal experience as a point of departure. Personal experience is considered by van Manen to contribute and not detract from the research process as possibilities were opened up and kept open. This allowed us, as researchers, to exact \u2018clues\u2019 for orientating ourselves to the phenomenon and further connection with all the other phases or steps in the research process (van Manen, 1997).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nSensitive topic research \u201ccreates a space for self-disclosure by the researcher that might not be appropriate in other types of research\u201d (Dickson-Swift, James, Kippen & Liamputtong, 2006, p. 857). The purposes of self-disclosure \u201clevel[ed] the playing field\u201d (p. 857). For us as researchers, it also \u201clevel[ed] the power relationship between researcher and participant\u201d (Shields & Dicicco, 2011, p. 496).\n\nLi (2002) explains that \u201cby being able to share with others our own feelings, experiences and secrets in this world, we also encounter the other person\u2019s secrets and vulnerabilities of which we must be respectful\u201d (p. 94). By sharing our \u2018sacred\u2019 experiences, the women were invited to share their \u2018sacred\u2019 experiences. This potentially allowed a deeper sharing of experiences, feelings, and meaning.\n

The Use of Interpretive Poetry<\/em><\/h1>\nFor van Manen (2007) telling the \u2018story\u2019 becomes balanced and enhanced by the use of literature (phenomenological and otherwise), the arts (such as poetry), etymological sources of words, and biography. Utilizing these sources of data, results in more reflective depth, promotes dialogue, and assists the researcher and reader of the research to potentially see beyond (their) \u201climits\u201d and to \u201ctranscend beyond the limits of (their) interpretive sensibilities\u201d (van Manen, 1990, p. 74-76). Perry suggests that \u201cto provide a hermeneutic analysis\u2026[poems express] the nucleus or heart of the narrative\u201d (p.134). Kockleman (1987) supports this view:\n\n<\/div>\n
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In the human reality there are certain phenomena which reach so deeply into a [person\u2019s] life and the world in which [they] live that poetic language is the only adequate way through which to point to and make present a meaning which we are unable to express in any other way. (p. ix)<\/blockquote>\n\u201cPoetry [then becomes] appropriate medium of analysis as it bridges non- verbal and verbal expression and it allows for communication in succinct and creative ways\u2026 expos[ing] the tacit, which is difficult to express otherwise\u201d (Perry, 1994, pp. 134-135). Interpretive poetry, written by researcher Katherine J. Janzen, became an integral part of the research process where \u201ctogether the narratives, poems and literature provide[d] an [enhanced] understanding\u201d (Perry, 1994) of the mothers\u2019 experiences where words alone would at times fail to capture the experiences and feelings of the participants.\n

Research<\/em> Question<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\nOur research asked the question: What is the lived experience of mothers in recovery who have lost custody of their children? <\/em>We used a hermeneutic phenomenological approach based on the work on Canadian phenomenologist Max van Manen (1997). Methodology includes elements of (1) philosophic structure, (2) essential assumptions of that framework and (3) the features of the human science perspective. Van Manen saw that phenomenology was a retrospective \u201cstudy of the lifeworld\u2014in the world as we immediately experience it pre-reflectively rather than as we conceptualize, categorize or reflect on it\u201d (p.9).\n\nThe purpose of human science is to provide \u201cplausible insights\u201d to our everyday life experiences in terms of discovering the very \u201cessence\u201d of a phenomenon rather than pursuing explanations or control (van Manen, 1997). Rigour, exactness and precision are distinguished by human science\u2019s own criteria. Objectivity is realized in the researchers being \u201ctrue\u201d and \u201coriented\u201d to the \u201cobject being studied\u201d and subjectivity exists in terms of the researcher perceptiveness, insightfulness and discernment \u201cin order to... disclose the object in its fullest richness and greatest depth\u201d (p. 20). As a result, \u201cgrasping and formulating thematic understanding\u201d becomes \u201ca free act of \u2018seeing\u2019 meaning\u201d rather than a \u201crule-bound process\u201d (p. 79). Six research activities guide van Manen\u2019s human science research:\n\n<\/div>\n
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(1) Turning to a phenomenon which seriously interests us and commits us to the world, (2) investigating the experience as it is lived rather than as we conceptualize it, (3) reflecting on essential themes which characterize the phenomenon, (4) describing the phenomenon through the art of writing and rewriting, (5) maintaining a strong and oriented pedagogical relation to the phenomenon, and (6) balancing the research context by considering both the whole and the parts. (p. 30-31)<\/blockquote>\n

Sampling<\/em><\/h1>\nParticipants were selected from a purposive sample of English speaking mothers living in Western Canada who had a crack cocaine addiction. Inclusion criteria included: currently living in a residential addictions treatment centre and having one or more children who were not in the participant\u2019s custody during a period of active addiction. Mothers with severe mental health issues, and participants who were heavily medicated were excluded from the sample. A recruitment poster was placed in the host facility and participants contacted the researcher through the agency. All participants gave informed consent. The study protocols were approved by the University Research Ethics board and the Board of Directors at the host recovery institution. No compensation was given for participation in this study.\n

Data<\/em> Collection<\/em><\/h1>\nIn-depth semi-structured interviews with four recovering mothers were undertaken over a five month period. Out of the four women who were interviewed, two had lost custody of their children permanently, one was still trying to regain custody, and one had recently received temporary custody while still facing imminent court proceedings related to custody issues. Face-to-face interviews with each participant lasting 45 minutes to one and three quarter hours were recorded on a digital recorder. Other sources of data which are consistent with van Manen\u2019s (1997) approach included the researchers\u2019 reflections, journal entries, etymological sources of words tied to the research, phenomenological literature and descriptions outside the context of the research such as readings and poetry. These additional representations of data were incorporated to provide context and support for the data.\n\n<\/div>\n
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Data<\/em> Analysis<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\nA combination of manual and computer-assisted coding was undertaken utilizing QRS NVivo8 qualitative data analysis software (QRS International, 2009) to ascertain themes from the data. Using a dual method of analysis was advantageous as it did not estrange us from the data and allowed the data to be examined with both closeness and distance from the data which is essential in hermeneutic phenomenology. NVivo8 complemented this process with its excellent capabilities to cross-reference, annotate, and index the data. The data analysis as a result was richer and served to enforce analytic strategies that methodologically guide the hermeneutic research process (Seale & Gabon, 2004). Lincoln and Guba\u2019s (1985) techniques for operationalizing trustworthiness were employed in the process of data analysis. Member checks affirmed authenticity of the themes. Katherine Joyce Janzen wrote the poems. Van Manen\u2019s (1997) hermeneutic reduction strategies guided the data analysis.\n

Findings<\/em><\/h1>\nStaying true to van Manen\u2019s (1997) philosophy of \u201cthematic understanding\u201d being a goal of hermeneutic research (p. 79), three themes, each with three sub-themes emerged from the data. The three themes represent scenes or dimensions that the mothers passed through as they moved through the experience of child custody loss. These scences\u2014betrayal, soul-ache, and reclamation\u2014represented key stages in their experiences. Each scene was further divided into three sub-scenes which add additional filters to understand the elements of the scenes. The four stories of the women that were interviewed\u2014Charolette, Crystal, Cristine and Hanna (all pseudonyms which the mothers chose themselves)\u2014are described with illustrative quotes from the mothers which embodied their experiences. Interpretive poetry written by KJJ was used to provide another layer of depth and breadth to their stories (Perry, 2009).\n\n<\/div>\n
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Scene One: Betrayal<\/em><\/h1>\nEst\u00e9s (2003) describes betrayals taking many forms\u2026 \u201croads not taken, paths that [are] cut off, ambushes.. or [even] deaths\u201d (p. 365). Betrayers (bitrayens<\/em>) mislead, deceive, and act as traitors (tradres<\/em>) to what and who individuals believe in and people and things accepted as truth. Betrayals and betrayers took many forms\u2014both animate and inanimate. The betrayers of the four mothers we interviewed were not always bodily betrayals but always betrayers of the soul and represented small deaths\u2014las meurtes chiquitas <\/em>and large deaths\u2014las meurtes grandotas <\/em>(Est\u00e9s, 2003). The primary betrayers became substances, self and others, and child welfare. Each betrayer exacted a price\u2014a price that came as a result of the mother\u2019s implicit trust in the betrayer. The following betrayals are explored using the mothers\u2019 own words and interpretive poetry.\n

Substances<\/em><\/h1>\nWhile each mother described crack cocaine as being her \u201cbest friend\u201d in a life that \u201crevolved around [their] addiction,\u201d mothers\u2019 were also very aware that over time crack was \u201cslowly destroying [their] soul.\u201d Their relationship with crack was understood as a progressive, destructive relationship. Charolette knew how deeply the addiction took over her life. \u201cI was so addicted. So addicted. And my addiction was so strong and intense and the negative talk, and it really weighed out, like really took over.\u201d Mothers were pinned between both lives\u2014that of a recovering mother and that of an addict. Said Crystal, \u201cI\u2019ve been clean for periods of my recovery...but it\u2019s always been like okay, my body would be in the door but my foot would be sticking out...\u201d Cristine sadly explained that conflict. \u201cBut it\u2019s hard when you feel stuck, right? Like what choice do you make? Do you make a choice to say goodbye to the addict or goodbye to your kid? It\u2019s not as simple as making that choice.\u201d Despite this conflict each women knew that the \u201cultimate\u201d outcome of being \u201con the streets [and using cocaine] was going to be death.\u201d While cocaine held the elusive promise of coping with their worlds, cocaine in the end would result in a last final betrayal\u2014the loss of their very lives.\n\n<\/div>\n
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REALIZATION<\/em><\/h4>\n

The first time I met you\nIt was so good\nThe feeling I had\nThat I lost years of my life\nMaking love to you;\nneeding you before all others.\nSomehow you mocked me\nAs I turned to you to solve life\u2019s problems.\nI realize you have betrayed me\nWith elusive promises\nMy best, old friend\u2014cocaine.<\/p>\n\n

Self<\/em> and Others<\/em><\/h1>\nEven with the presence of multiple betrayers these mother\u2019s single most significant betrayer was the mother herself. Charolette knew that she had betrayed herself. \u201cI fed into it. I made it more believing. I convinced myself about it. So I gave up more to life.\u201d Hanna knew that her decision making process was faulty when her children were apprehended. She relates, \u201cI didn\u2019t pick up the phone and call my treatment centre. I picked up the phone and called my drug dealer.\u201d\n\nThere were also other multiple betrayers. Christine experienced this with her boyfriend, his parents and even her own parents thinking that they were 100% behind her and realizing this was not the case. Crystal was extremely surprised when her children were told she was their aunt. Hanna identified that others betrayed her with their attitudes about addiction. She felt she was shunned, even if others knew she was in recovery. Hanna explained that even her own mother was reluctant to hug her once she started using again...\n
Yeah, what\u2019s that in the Bible? The disease you give, leprosy, you know that you\u2019re just contagious. And actually when I started using again I used to say that to my Mom. \u201cDon\u2019t worry, if you hug me, you\u2019re not going to catch an addiction.<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n
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TREATCHERY<\/em><\/h4>\n

While you betray me\nWith thoughts\nWith words\nWith actions\nThe worst betrayer of me\nIs me.<\/p>\n\n

Child Welfare<\/em><\/h1>\nThese women described valiant efforts to stay \u201cclean\u201d and adhere to the requirements of their child welfare worker in the belief that they would have their children returned to them. When they completed requirements, however, there were always more conditions imposed on them, which left them feeling confused, alone and discouraged. Charolette sorrowfully described the implicit trust she put in child welfare\u2014 \u201cI trusted them with my life and [the] lives [of my children] because I thought they were there for me. They didn\u2019t understand. I felt so alone at those times.\u201d Hanna described the process with child welfare as \u201cjump[ing] through hoops\u201d and then being given \u201c10 more.\u201d The decision to be honest about drug use was always a difficult one. Cristine knew the pain of betrayal... \u201cIt was tough, you know, like when they stepped in and it was like I was the bad guy because I was honest with them... I told them the circumstances, everything. It didn\u2019t matter.\u201d Charolette summarized the feelings of the mothers amid the tears that she cried\u2014\u201cThey won. They got what they wanted... Not once did I have a worker that supported me, that was there for me or that encouraged me to keep going to get my kids back. Not one. So I gave up.\u201d\n

CIRCUS<\/em><\/h4>\n

I don\u2019t see it coming\nAs I jump through hoops\nPlaced before me\nEach one higher\nAnd in the end I fall.\nDo I tell the truth\nWhen it leaves me imprisoned;\nTrapped Without an advocate?<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n

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Scene Two: Soul-ache<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

GIVING UP<\/em><\/h4>\n

A terrible sadness comes in May\nWith too much light and unreal green;\nA sadness like a jail cell\nWith no corner left to hide.\nClearly I see a little face.\nSoft eyelashes shade her cheeks\nAnd she has such a trusting smile;\nBeryl runs forever on a lawn-starred with dandelions.\nAnd always she is six years old.\nAgain she\u2019s asking what I cannot give,\nThe pain, the tenderness is there once more\nThe old reproach of selfishness.\nWhile other people raised my child\nI sought sanctuary in madness.<\/p>\n

(M.C. Jones, 1970, used with permission)<\/p>\nMadness comes in many forms when trying to live with loss: seeking relief in continued use of substances, trying to end one\u2019s life, and falling into deep depression while struggling with living itself. Madness was found within the spaces of accountability\u2014where blame was situated for events that had happened. Eliot (1969) described this madness as \u201cthe pain of living and the drug of dreams,\u201d where one is \u201cneither living nor dead.\u201d (p. 38). This was the true space of soul-ache.\n

The Moment of Loss<\/em><\/h1>\nThe very moment that the mothers\u2019 lost custody of their children represented a death for the women who remained\u2014deaths without funerals or spaces to mark them. This \u2018death without death\u2019 was considered worse than if their children had physically died. In many ways the mothers felt that they had themselves died right along with their children. Each woman could recall the moment of loss vividly.\n\nCharolette experienced the loss of her children in a court room where she voluntarily gave up custody. She had been battling her addictions and came to the point where she believed that there was no hope left for their return. She saw the decision as one of \u201cgiving up,\u201d a decision which \u201cbroke [her] heart.\u201d Crystal abandoned her children when she was 18 and left for another city when she didn\u2019t have enough food for her children and didn\u2019t know where to go for help. She felt she had \u201cfailed\u201d and \u201ccouldn\u2019t give [her] kids what they deserved.\u201d Cristine lost her son when he was 11 weeks old. She was trying to deal with post-partum depression and couldn\u2019t manage a little baby and the emotions that were surfacing related to the death of her first infant son. Hanna lost custody of her new born daughter in a hospital room. She related, \u201cI\u2019ve never cried so hard in my life. Like nothing breaks my heart more.\u201d\n\n<\/div>\n
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WHITE CROSSES<\/em><\/h4>\n

I mark the spaces of soul-ache.\nOne for each time my heart broke.<\/p>\n\n

Accountability<\/em><\/h1>\nEach mother had great difficulty coming to terms with how accountable they were for the loss of their children. Crystal had no food for her children; Cristine was suffering from post-partum depression. Charolette had been beaten so badly by her husband that she had a brain injury; Hanna thought she would be able to make a decision of where her children were placed. Despite this, each woman came to accept her role in the loss of her children.\n\nCharolette relates that although she knew she \u201cwas a part of the problem of giving them up... all [she] knew was to use drugs.\u201d Cristine knew that her cocaine use was the direct reason for losing her two daughters, both of whom were born addicted to cocaine. She stated, \u201cIt cost me my life and my kids.\u201d The most difficult part of losing custody was, as Hanna explained, \u201cto know that [she] did it to [herself ].\u201d\n

Living<\/em> with Loss<\/em><\/h1>\nAfter the mothers lost custody of their children they went through a period in which they engaged more deeply with their addictions. It was a period of indifference in their lives\u2014lives which ceased to have meaning except by that defined by cocaine. For the women it was a downward spiral into \u201closing everything\u201d and \u201ccutting everyone out of their li[ves].\u201d Crystal described herself as being \u201cbroken.\u201d The depth of despair was overwhelming. Charolette knew in her heart that she totally \u201cgave up\u201d to the point she knew she would \u201cdie out there.\u201d Hanna described the deadly effect of losing her children...\n\n<\/div>\n
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No. I didn\u2019t feel like [living]. I felt that all the hope was gone. What did it matter? I might as well go die and that\u2019s what I tried to do. Like honestly, that\u2019s why I ended up in [hospital] because I tried to kill myself. My mom took me to the hospital and told them. You don\u2019t put her somewhere, she\u2019s going to be dead. And I probably would have been.<\/blockquote>\n

THE VOID OF NOTHINGNESS<\/em><\/h4>\nHer loss, like death, changes me\nFor a time the very jaws of hell gape open\nAnd I fall into darkness\nUntil there is nothing\nNo words\nNo thoughts\nNo soul.\n

Scene Three: Reclamation<\/em><\/h1>\nIf soul-ache was the place of the soul that hovered between living and dying, then reclamation represented a place of rebirth where life was declared once more. This dawning hailed an entrance into a new stage in their lives\u2014one where hope began to exist again. Reclamation consisted of three areas: learning to live again, the perfect day, and reaching toward the future.\n

Learning to Live Again<\/em><\/h1>\nLearning to live again was a process for the mothers. Their hearts and souls began to be expanded. They began to feel hope which came from a place where each woman refused to believe that the separation from her children was permanent. They looked toward a both a future where that they would have relationships and contact with their children, and a present where they still saw themselves as mothers.\n\nEach mother emphatically and assuredly stated that \u201c[she] would always be their mother.\u201d Crystal firmly stated, \u201cNobody\u2019s going to change that, no matter what. Your children will always come back. Will always come back.\u201d Charolette held on to the belief that in the future, she would be able to have contact with her sons: \u201cAnother thing that keeps me going is that, knowing I\u2019m gonna\u2014that I can possibly one day see my boys. See my boys and talk to them, or even get a letter from them. It\u2019s a start.\u201d The mothers\u2019 fervent belief in God as their higher power had helped them and continued to help them regain not only their lives but their children.\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nPart of learning to live again was coming to terms with the role that child welfare had in their lives. Charolette expressed a sense of thankfulness for child welfare when she said, \u201c But yet I thank them. I thank them for the person I am now... I thank them because they\u2019re there. They gave me that push in life.\u201d Hanna summed it up this way\u2014\n
I can\u2019t hate the system forever for wanting better for my children and taking them out of a negative environment... A child in an addictive atmosphere where there\u2019s drugs and alcohol going on is not a good place for them. So I can deal with that...<\/blockquote>\n

A Perfect Day<\/em><\/h1>\nEach woman was able to describe a perfect day with her children which provided the motivation that carried her forward into her recovery. These days were of normal activities, but were profound for the mother herself. For Cristine and Crystal it would have been just in the act of \u201cbeing with\u201d them and \u201cfeeling of their energy and love.\u201d The perfect day would be one of absorbing all the actions of their children as the children simply played around them.\n\nThe power of touch was something that was sacred to these women and represented the greatest gift that they could be given on a perfect day with their children. Cristine\u2019s wish was just \u201cto hold\u201d them, while Crystal would simply want to \u201ctouch [their] faces.\u201d\n\nHanna\u2019s description of what a perfect day would be for her was filled with a longing that was bittersweet:\n
I think I would just hold her. So I would just hold her, and you know, I talk to their pictures every night. Clara...Clara she\u2019s just... my mom says she\u2019s just like me and it\u2019s true...with Clara I would just hold her, I think. I would just want to be alone with her. The same with Izzy. And just do what she wanted to do.<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n
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THE VISIT<\/em><\/h4>\n

I touch your face\nAnd you are real;\nYou are here.\nI cry\nTears of heartache past,\nTears of present;\nTears of future hoped.<\/p>\n\n

R<\/em>eaching Toward the Future<\/em><\/h1>\nEach of the mothers represented individuals who didn\u2019t just go on trying\u2014they were able to both conquer and reconcile a past that otherwise may have crippled them and to reach toward a future that had promise. Without the shackles of addiction their life had new freedom\u2014a freedom to dream; a freedom to become that which was in their imaginations. Many of the women\u2019s dreams centered on what most people take for granted: having a nice house, a good job, and spending time with their families. Charolette\u2019s dreams revolved around employment and her family with the resolve that she needed a secure job to \u201cbecome a mother again.\u201d Crystal\u2019s motivation was found in her children. \u201cEverything I do is because I want a better life for my children. In all instances... it\u2019s hope for my kids and grandkids.\u201d Cristine firmly recounted a simple truth\u2014\n
For a long time I thought I was powerless, but you know what? For the first time in forever, I finally feel like I can do this because before I became overpowered by crack, I was an amazing person. I worked two jobs. I had my own place. I took care of my friends. Like I could do it... I could function and I could make it happen because I was strong and able. Well, I finally feel that way again so I can do it and I will... I will, for me and for my kids because without my kids, I don\u2019t have me and without me, I don\u2019t have my kids.<\/blockquote>\nHanna echoed this when she said, \u201cI have my recovery. And with my recovery is going to come life, and with life comes my kids.\u201d <\/em>\n\n<\/div>\n
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RECLAMATION<\/em><\/h4>\n

Once imprisoned\nI have broken free.\nBefore me lies\nMy children...\nMy future.<\/p>\n\n

Discussion\n<\/em>M<\/em>otivation to Remain in Treatment<\/em><\/h1>\nThoughts of their children remained a primary motivator for the mothers to remain in treatment. Even when mothers permanently lost custody, they looked to a day when their children would surround them. This is consistent with Ferraro and Moe\u2019s (2003) study where they found that \u201ceven when women\u2019s rights were terminated and [mothers] were prohibited from interaction with their children believed that they would be reunited one day\u2026\u201d \u201cThis connection [with their] children helped [them] to survive and look toward the future with hope\u201d (pp. 34-35). A \u2018perfect day\u2019 was conceptualized as a dream that she held close to her heart and soul and motivated her work not only toward recovery, but also how she lived her life. This dream provided a tangible foothold which brought forth the strength and \u201cfaith... [to] pursue a new direction (Jones, 2007, p. 207).\n\nThe power of \u2018touch\u2019 was a concept which permeated each interview. Each woman dreamed of simply holding her children\u2014touching their faces. This image seemed to be healing for each of the women. Touch is considered to be both discriminative and emotional (McGlone, Vallbo, Olausson, Loken & Wessberg, 2007). Through touch emotions are communicated (Hertenstein, Holmes, McCullough & Keltner, 2009). It has been demonstrated that the sight of touch as well as the thought of touch light up the same areas in the brain in Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) and Positron Emission Tomography (PET) scans as if touch was occurring physically (McCabe, Rolls, Bilderbeck & McGlone, 2008; Seung-Schik, Freeman, McCarthyll & Jolesz, 2003). Touch, therefore may be both emotionally protective and simultaneously acting as a source of motivation for the mothers to continue in their recovery.\n\n<\/div>\n
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Redefining<\/em> Life<\/em> Without<\/em> Children<\/em><\/h1>\nThis study adds to the determination of what constitutes intense emotional pain (Barry, 2006b) in recovering mothers. The women in this study felt that custody loss was worse than if their children had died. This represents an ambiguous loss for these mothers (Betz & Thorngren, 2006).\n\nAmbiguous loss is a loss that doesn\u2019t fit within the traditional notion of death and are felt to be either loss where there is physical presence but psychological absence or physical absence but psychological presence. Recovering mothers who lose custody of their children fit into the latter category. This type of loss can be compared to a child that has been abducted, but in this case the child is apprehended. In this loss \u201cthe natural processes of their lives stop the day the child is\u201d apprehended (Betz & Throngren, 2006, p. 360). These losses find mothers \u201cstuck [in an] uncertainty of what their role is\u201d with subsequent feelings of \u201cpowerlessness, insecurity in their future... and examining [their] values and beliefs... calling into question who one truly is\u201d (p. 360). In addition, in ambiguous loss, the loss of role is mourned and creates a situation where a redefinition of relationship, roles and responsibilities presents itself to the bereaved.\n\nAmbiguous loss presents itself as a situation where there are no rituals for meaning-making and the loss is socially stigmatized (Betz & Thorngren, 2006). \u201cFor years [the mothers] may go through the cycle of hope only to be disappointed once again\u201d (p. 361) where the \u201cgrief can be exhausting\u201d (p. 362). Betz and Throngren note that \u201cwith [this] ambiguous loss the [mothers\u2019] cannot simply move on. Their immobility or inability to deal effectively with the situation becomes a combination of\u2026 feelings of failure [and] the impossibility of the situation that\u2026 leave[s] them powerless\u201d (p. 362).\n\nThe death of a child is considered to be catastrophic (Craighead and Nemeroff, 2004) and the outcome for these women was indeed catastrophic. \u201cI felt that all hope was gone. What did it matter? I might as well just go and die...\u201d This wish to \u2018go and die\u2019 was acted upon as each of the mothers engaged deeper with their addictions\u2014consciously attempting to end their own lives with increased crack use.\n\nCarlson, Matto, Smith and Eversman (2006) describe mothers who lose custody of their children as experiencing \u201cintense emotional reactions\u201d where mothers may surrender to feelings of desperation. Wijngaards-de Meij et al. (2007) notes that outcomes of parental loss of a child can be parental mortality. Jiong, Precht, Mortensen and Olsen (2003) cite that mothers are particularly vulnerable in the first three years after a child\u2019s death and are at much higher risk of suicide than fathers. The loss of hope appears to be omnipresent whether the loss occurs because of custody loss or child mortality (Roberts, 1999).\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nA grieving process ensued which was consistent with Florczak\u2019s (2008) notion of finding meaning in the loss of their children. The strength and courage to go onward could be considered to be \u201cpost- traumatic growth\u201d which is the \u201chighest form of change associated with grief \u201d (Tedeschi & Calhoun, 2008, p. 31). Resilience was a demonstrated outcome where maladaptive coping (Sutherland, 2009) gave way to behaviours consistent with not only life and living, but also living well, which seemed to be tied to the ability to have hope, goals, and dreams.\n

Re-conceptualization<\/em> of Life and Role<\/em><\/h1>\nWhile the literature points to recovering mothers re-conceptualizing their identity as mothers (Paris & Bradley, 2000; Sutherland et al., 2009) our study supported that it was their role <\/em>as mothers that was reconceptualized. Each of the women had a firm belief they were still mothers despite the loss of their children. This kept their identities as mothers intact. Hence it was not their identity that was relinquished when they lost custody but a process of renegotiation of role and what that role looked like. This role was primarily influenced by what having contact with their children would look like in terms of capacities and activities.\n

Making<\/em> Sense of Losing Children<\/em><\/h1>\nFrankl (2006) found that finding meaning is integrally \u201cunique and specific\u201d to those that seek it. A recovering mother appears to make sense of losing custody when she accepts accountability for the loss of her children. Part of making sense was accepting that \u201cmistakes\u201d were made and moving onward despite those mistakes. Cristine said, \u201cWhatever I have to live today, I can\u2019t worry about yesterday... I know that what I did yesterday is going to affect my tomorrow, but right now I can just be here.\u201d\n\nA solid relationship with their higher power was a lifeline for these women. The concept of a higher power is synonymous with recovery programs (McGee, 2000; Ronel, 2000). Brome, Owens, Allen and Vevania\u2019s (2000) study revealed that a relationship with a higher power resulted in \u201cmore positive self-appraisals, more positive relationships with others, and an empowering coping stance\u201d (p. 482).\n\n<\/div>\n
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Courage<\/em> in the Face of Social and Societal Adversity<\/em><\/h1>\nThe presence of the kind of social and societal adversity these women experienced is supported in the literature (Aston, 2009; Poole & Greaves, 2009). The mothers faced considerable mixed messages from both society and the institutions that served them. These conflicting messages had a significant impact when one considers the recovering mother\u2019s efforts to use motherhood as a driver to recover. These ambiguities left them with a considerable burden to carry\u2014furthering feelings of being lost, confused, and alone. These mothers valiantly tried to change their lives in the face of complex ever changing \u2018rules\u2019\u2014always hoping that adherence to these conditions would result in the return of their children.\n\nAs Powis et al. (2000) note there is a definite struggle between using drugs and keeping custody of one\u2019s children. What this study adds is that there comes a time when mothers ultimately make this decision. This \u2018giving up\u2019 could be understood as a process of deliberation which is influenced on many fronts but primarily by the betrayals they experienced. The literature is clear that child welfare workers have an impact on recovering mothers who lose custody of their children (Poole & Greaves, 2009; Reid et al., 2008). What emerged from our study was that betrayal was not framed singularly from child welfare workers. Rather, betrayal was multidimensional and included substances, significant others, and the mother herself. While the findings support that literature which describes addicted women as seeing themselves as thwarted and punished (Reid et al., 2008) what is further gained from this study is the magnitude of the impact that others have upon them. In Charolette\u2019s words, \u201cA mother will lose her life.\u201d\n\nWhile Aston (2009) notes that addicted women learn to \u201chail\u201d themselves as addicts, what gave the women the courage to persevere despite the reactions of others was a central belief that, in the words of one of the women in this research, they were \u201cnot the addiction\u201d but the \u201cperson behind the addiction.\u201d They were first and foremost human beings. This adds to current knowledge that even in their darkest moments, their identity was not solely reflective of their addiction.\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nAs we listened to our participants\u2019 stories about their children and their treatment, we were struck by their courage in both the very thoughts of their children and in the philosophies of the addiction treatment center which they resided. Each woman felt she had been loved and supported as she progressed through recovery. All of the women noted they were \u201cloved\u201d until they could once more love themselves. This is consistent with what Kearney (1998) saw as \u201ctruthful self-nurturing\u201d and what Aston (2009) described as recovery assisting mothers to see themselves differently. The mothers experienced truthful other<\/em>-nurturing until they could truthfully self-<\/em>nurture. What this adds to current knowledge is that Maslow\u2019s (Boeree, 2006) basic human needs\u2014even in recovery\u2014extend beyond physiological and safety needs and are seen within the seeds of being esteemed, belonging, affection, and most importantly being loved.\n

Strengths<\/em> and Limitations<\/em><\/h1>\nAlthough generalization is not an aim of qualitative research, a limitation of this study is a lack of generalizability. However, the goal of this research was not generalizability, but transferability (Glesne, 2006). Studies which have small samples are thought to \u201c...deepen understanding and build breadth into their investigation through mindfulness of other work in the field. Thus... just one \u2018case\u2019 can lead to new insights... if it is recognized that any such case is an instance of social reality\u201d ( Crouch & McKenzie, 2006, p. 498). Although this study had a small sample, with any study there are considered to be tradeoffs between depth and breadth (Patton, 2002). With this in mind, the aim of our study was to explore in detail the lived experience of recovering mothers who had lost custody of their children, or in other words, to seek depth. The breadth of this study could be reflected in the provision of associated literature and first examining disciplinary knowledge in the form of a literature review and then, situating findings in the context of that literature.\n

Recommendations<\/em><\/h1>\nThere are several recommendations that arise from our research. For mothers in recovery, the ability to hold or touch their children, even if only in their minds, embodied motivation for the mothers. Guided imagery that simulates the experiences of holding or touching their children may be valuable as a modality to sustain both well being and motivation in recovering mothers.\n\n<\/div>\n
\n\nTedeschi and Calhoun (2008) note that \u201cthe encounter with major losses teaches the bitter lesson that the individual is vulnerable to experiencing great suffering\u201d upon the death of a loved one (p. 33). For mothers, this represented a figurative death. Losing custody can be viewed as an ambiguous loss resulting in disenfranchised grief in a society that does not recognize the immense suffering of mothers who lose custody of their children (Betz & Thorngren, 2006; Hazen, 2003). Grief counselling represents a viable strategy that could be easily undertaken as part of treatment in addictions recovery. Given the course of self-destruction that mothers engage in after losing custody, this may act as a buffer and provide new strategies to cope with the loss of their children and potentially decrease the risk of suicide.\n\nThe loss of custody has a profound impact on mothers. Hope is both lost and regained through the belief of others. Those who occupy positions of power, such as physicians, nurses, child welfare workers and addictions counsellors are called upon promote and communicate a sense of belief in an addicted mother to recover. Utilizing a strength-based perspective, examining personal belief and value systems as human beings and as professionals, as well as negotiating the underlying philosophies of their professions may do more to assist these mothers than any other single force in the recovering mother\u2019s lives. Perhaps only then will society and social institutions begin to create a \u201cjust and equitable\u201d system (Kruk, 2008) that meets recovering mothers \u201cwhere they are at\u201d (Kullar, 2009, p. 10).\n\nThis begins with giving voice to mothers who have lost custody of their children and providing opportunities for dialogue. Instead of viewing these mothers as \u2018good\u2019 or \u2018bad\u2019 perhaps it is time to see addicted mothers as human beings with strengths and frailties\u2014and the capacity to change their lives given appropriate supports and resources. Examining personal and professional belief systems may help professionals and institutions realize inconsistencies between their practices and values which may have served to penalize and subjugate addicted mothers in the mother\u2019s efforts to recover. The single phrase, \u201cbelieve in me,\u201d spoken of by one the mothers in this research, may have more power to change lives when acted upon by those who can and should enact change in our societal structures than any other phrase these mothers could utter.\n\n<\/div>\n
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SHERPA<\/em><\/h4>\n

Believe in me.\nI am not the addiction.\nI am the woman behind the addiction.\nI laugh. I cry.\nI hurt.\nI need you\nTo be my guide\nAs I climb\nOver mountains\nThat rise above me.\nWithout you I falter.\nWithout you I fail.\nBelieve in me.<\/p>\n\n

Conclusions<\/em><\/h1>\nHuman suffering can take many forms. For mothers with addictions the loss of custody of their children represents a dark, deadly period in their lives where there is intense suffering and pain. From a humanitarian perspective, this research has invited the reader to vicariously experience, through the stories of the mothers, the experience of child custody loss. While the reader may find this paper disturbing and unsettling, a bird\u2019s eye view of the pain, grief, and loss of recovering mothers becomes very \u2018real.\u2019 Perhaps more importantly, the message\u2014that recovering mothers can recover from this loss\u2014is paramount. Ultimately, the use of our findings has the potential to be influential as professionals consider their own practices, identify their beliefs and values surrounding addicted mothers in recovery, and perhaps as a result, take the first steps towards enacting social and disciplinary change.\n\nOur research underscores the multiple contextual factors that are associated with substance abuse in mothers as well as their journeys to recovery. There exists a need to look at recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children in a holistic sense while trying to ascertain influences that affect their drug use and subsequent custody loss. Examining the experiences of recovering mothers who have lost custody provides further insights that identify the needs of recovering mothers and the processes they go through in their journey to reclaim their lives. We hope that with further research, these processes will become better understood and assist in the progressive determination of policy and treatment options.\n

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Janzen, K. J., & Melrose, S. (2013). When the worst imaginable becomes reality: The experience of child custody loss in mothers recovering from addictions. Janus Head<\/em>. 13(1), 176-213.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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This article describes findings from a qualitative study that investigated the lived experiences of four mothers recovering from crack cocaine addictions who lost custody of their children. The project was guided by feminist interpretive inquiry, van Manen\u2019s approach to hermeneutic phenomenology, and involved thematic analysis of in depth interview data. By telling the stories of these women and using their own words as well as interpretive poetry written by one of the authors to describe their suffering, our research offers important insights to professionals involved in the field of addictions.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

For many women, becoming a mother is seen as one of life\u2019s most rewarding experiences\u2014one that they may look toward from their own very childhoods. Having children changes not only how women view their own personal lives, but also how they see themselves in a broader social context (Stenius, Veysey, Hamiliton & Anderson, 2005). For the addicted mother, this role becomes a source of ambiguity, strain and conflict when she finds herself trying to choose between being a mother and using substances (Brady, Black & Greenfield, 2009). According to the Canadian Mental Health Association (2011) and Streetworks (2011) (a harm reduction\/needle exchange program), child custody loss has been described by mothers with mental health issues and addictions as the worst imaginable outcome of substance abuse. To date, the voices of recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children are not represented in existing literature. In this article, we advocate for this group of marginalized women by sharing their experiences with the worst possible outcome of their addiction, losing custody of their children.<\/p>\n

This article is a culmination of the quest to (1) give \u2018voice\u2019 and, perhaps hope, to women who find themselves grappling with child custody loss, and to (2) provide insight into the complexity of these mother\u2019s experiences for professionals who treat and come in contact with them.<\/p>\n

To provide context for the mothers\u2019 stories, we begin by presenting background literature that explores the ideology of motherhood; constructs a composite picture of the addicted mother; delineates child welfare and court practices; discusses trends in addiction treatment and ramifications of child custody loss; and comments on resilience in recovering mothers. This literature underscores the no-win situation addicted mothers can experience. Next, we describe our research approach and emphasize three themes. First, mothers experience feelings of betrayal; second, soul- ache; and third, reclamation when they experience child custody loss. By representing our data with interpretive poetry arising from the transcripts written by Katherine Joyce Janzen (KJJ), one of the researchers as well as participants\u2019 verbatim comments to tell the mothers\u2019 stories, we are able to depict the richness of their experiences. Finally, we discuss the implications of our findings.<\/p>\n

The following poem, written by KJJ, is addressed to our research participants and expresses our commitment to advocacy, to providing context, to giving voice, and to allowing them to find their own strengths.<\/p>\n

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You have shared
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\nOf your spoken words;
\nTouching others
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Literature<\/em> Review
\n<\/em>The Ideology of Motherhood<\/em><\/h1>\n

The ideology of motherhood holds a variety of different meanings. For almost all mothers, the attempt to navigate the \u2018road of motherhood\u2019 can be filled with potholes and fissures as motherhood is both glorified and demeaned (Dunlap, Sturzenhofecker & Johnson, 2006) in a carefully constructed \u201cgender system\u201d of social and cultural roles (Haddock, Zimmerman & Lyness, 2003). While becoming and being a mother is often romanticized, for centuries society has pathologized, demonized and demeaned mothers and presented them as failures as they reach to fulfill impossible expectations (Caplan, 2001; Dunlap et al., 2006; Irwin, Thorne<\/p>\n

& Varcoe, 2002; Litzke, 2004). Patriarchal systems, including those of law and custom, have judged and controlled mothers in terms of extensive idealization, scrutinization and denigration in their roles and behaviours (Reid, Greaves & Poole, 2008). Choices in motherhood are further constrained by power imbalances (gender, class, and ethnicity) and social roles which offer a perplexing medium where there exist many choices\u2014 none of which are easy (Dunlap et al., 2006). These include being\/not being a mother, lesbian mothering, whether to use reproductive technologies, issues of balancing work with the constraints of extended families, being a single mother\/parent, and potential poverty (Glenn, Change & Forcey, 1995).<\/p>\n

The distance between the polarities of \u2018ideal mothering\u2019 and \u2018real mothering\u2019 further constricts the rights of mothers; significant conflict arises between legal and social responses to mothers who are deemed by society to \u201cbehave badly\u201d (Reid et al., 2008) such as addicted mothers or mothers who neglect and abuse their children (Chelsler, 2011). Mothers who fail to live up to the stereotypical ideals and roles that society assigns, especially in terms of femininity and motherhood, exacts severe social stigma (Beck, 2006). This social stigma is further typified in the labels that addicted mothers are given.<\/p>\n

A Composite Picture of the Addicted Mother<\/em><\/h1>\n

In our review of the literature we observed a pattern where mothers tended to be polarized into either \u201cgood mothers\u201d or \u201cbad mothers\u201d (Brown, 2006). In North America, the stereotypical image of a \u201cgood mother\u201d as is severely challenged and delegitimized when mothers abuse substances such as illicit drugs and alcohol (Caplan, 2001; Litzke, 2004).<\/p>\n

[A good] \u201cmother is one who is expected to perform a limited number of tasks all of which are never ending. Mothers are not allowed to fail any of these obligations. [This] ideal of motherhood is sacred; it exposes all mothers as imperfect. (Chelser, 2011, p. 48).<\/p>\n

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This imperfection is even more pronounced with the addicted mother. Not only does substance use conflict with the traditional female role, it is also considered to be deviant (Powis, Gossop, Bury, Payne & Griffiths, 2000). This deviance is perpetuated and socially constructed in popular media (Meyers, 2004) and within the medical and nursing profession (Marcellus, 2003). Mothers with addictions have been stereotyped as \u201cshe devils\u201d or \u201csexual\u2026 Jezebel[s] who [threaten] the lives and safety of [their] born and unborn children\u201d (Meyers, 2004, p. 194). This has resulted in substance using mothers being given various labels including \u201cgood, bad, thwarted, [and\/or] addicted\u201d as they strive but often fail to meet the \u2018ideal\u2019 of mothering (Reid et al., 2008, p. 211).<\/p>\n

Thus the addicted mother eventually is forced to see herself as either a \u2018good mother\u2019 or a \u2018bad mother\u2019 (Brown, 2006). An addicted woman\u2019s view of being a \u2018good mother\u2019 often is tied to \u201ctrying to do the right thing for their children\u201d (Reid et al, 2008, p. 231). Reid and colleagues support our observation by noting that these women are \u201cvery aware of the powerful social forces that have clear images of \u2018good mother\u2019 and \u2018bad mother\u2019 and often [try] to position themselves as mothers attempting to do good in a system and society that does not value or assist them\u201d (p. 231). In her attempts to continue mothering her children, she may live with very high levels of shame, guilt, and self-blame due to her own perceptions of being an inadequate parent (Coyer, 2001). Even with emerging research which supports the presence of adequate parenting skills in addicted mothers (Doris, Meguid, Thomas, Blatt & Eschenrode, 2006; Huxley & Foulger, 2008), these mothers are further marginalized by social service and health care professionals (Brown, 2006), who deem them \u201cunfit\u201d (Powis et al., 2000; Smith, 2006). Shackled by these constraints, the addicted mother often eventually sees herself as being \u201cweak\u201d and \u201cmorally corrupt\u201d\u2014 paralleling society\u2019s view of her (Litzke, 2004).<\/p>\n

Social pressures and situational constraints often create conditions where addiction becomes a tool for survival. Intense poverty, homelessness, social isolation, violent relationships, inadequate food\/provisions, and a lack of care for their children often perpetuate addiction (Dunlap et al., 2006). Substance abusing mothers are often further impacted by intergenerational patterns of substance abuse, mental illness, and physical and\/or sexual abuse (Cash & Wilke, 2003) which results in further societal stigmatization (Suchman, McMahon, Slade & Luthar, 2005). These significant constraints are felt by society to be solely the problem of the mother and have no bearing on the \u2018system\u2019 or society at large further victimizing and vilifying the addicted mother (Reid et al., 2008). Litzke (2004) aptly describes addiction as \u201cdehumanizing;\u201d mothers are \u201chailed as addicts\u201d instead of human beings (Aston, 2009, p. 611).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Despite all the barriers and constraints that these mothers face, the role of motherhood provides a sense of stability in recovery (Hiersteiner, 2004). Addicted mothers struggle with feelings about having and keeping their children (Suchman et al., 2005). These feelings result in the presence of considerable conflict which centres on their drug dependence and the fear of losing custody of their children (Powis et al., 2000). Giving up her children is seen as a mother\u2019s last possible resort (Coyer, 2001). Clearly, mothers are significantly impacted by the fear of losing custody of their children in their experiences with courts and child welfare agencies.<\/p>\n

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The Courts and Contemporary Child Welfare Practices<\/em><\/h1>\n

In the United States and Great Britain, 25% to 69% of addicted mothers see their children being placed in foster care or kinship programs (Kovalesky, 2001; Litzke, 2004). In the United States 33% of child welfare cases result in permanent custody loss while Canada\u2019s 2004 statistics reveal 62% of all children taken into care have permanent guardianship orders (European University Association, n.d.) which is an increase of five percent from 1999 (Human Resources Skills Development Canada, 2000). In multi-national studies, Canada has the highest rate of child placement (Mulchay & Trocm\u00e9, 2010). Rural areas in Canada see children placed at twice the rate of those in urban communities (Budeau, Barniuk, Fallon & Black, 2009). Canadian statistics portray 32% of children being removed from homes led by single mothers with alcohol or drug\/solvent use (Trocm\u00e9 et al., 2005). There has been a shift in which pregnant women now make up 30% of the overall cases mandated in court (Terplan, Smith, Kozloksi & Pollack, 2010).<\/p>\n

Rigid restrictions have been in effect for over 10 years in the United States that cause permanency hearings (for permanent guardianship by the State) to be enacted after 12 months, and parental rights terminated if a child is in foster care for longer than 15 months (Smith, 2006; Semidei, Radel & Nolan, 2001). In Canada, children can spend up to three years waiting for a permanency decision which arguably creates a scenario where the children are literally in \u201climbo\u201d and constrains the development of secure attachments (Knoke, 2009). Given this situation, in the authors\u2019 jurisdiction, when three temporary guardianship orders have been in place, the child(ren) are either placed permanently or returned to their parent(s) (Alberta Children\u2019s Services, 2007). In both the United States and Canada, there has been a move in the judicial system to shorten these timelines in an effort to enforce quicker permanency decisions (Alberta Children and Youth Services, 2009; Semidei et al., 2001).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Despite the presence of adequate parenting capabilities, mothers who become totally abstinent are still considered to be high risk by the child welfare system (Reid et al., 2008). Social workers\u2019 professional relationships with addicted mothers are often strained, even confrontational, with social workers enforcing their own agenda, and paying little attention to the concerns of the mother (Forrester, McCambridge, Waissbeing & Rollinick, 2008). The understanding of both the court and child welfare agencies related to addictions\/addictions treatment is deemed lacking which translates into a lack of a \u201cjust and equitable standard\u201d for working with recovering mothers (Burman, 2004; Kruk, 2008; Smith, 2006). Risk assessment remains a contentious issue but there have been attempts to use a strengths-based harm reduction model (Weaver, 2009). This model sees recovery as a continuum where social workers meet addicted mothers \u201cwhere they are at\u201d (Kullar, 2009, p. 10). It is of note that advances in addictions treatment programs are beginning to act as a bridge between child welfare and the courts.<\/p>\n

T<\/em>r<\/em>ends in Addictions Treatment<\/em><\/h1>\n

Recovery from addictions is not a straightforward process. While the medical model (complete abstinence) continues to guide many treatment philosophies, advances have been made in addiction treatment. The harm reduction model (relapse being a temporary condition) is increasingly gaining acceptance on a global level (Burman, 2004; Snow & Delaney, 2006). Gender-responsive treatment is another trend that has emerged since the 1990\u2019s, and this model attempts to mediate the complexities of addiction in the context of gender roles, sexism, poverty, and other environmental issues (Grella, 2008). Before 2004, however, models which involved mothers and their children had not yet emerged (Cash & Wilke, 2004).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Models of treatment that include not only family members, but also children, have become more common (Werner, Young, Dennis & Amateri, 2007). This shift in thinking reflects the profoundly negative impact that occurs when, in order to gain access to treatment, mothers are separated from their children (Barry, 2006a; Beck, 2006). In recent years, residential recovery programs have been offering programs and services that allow children to stay with their mother while she engages in recovery (VanDeMark, O\u2019Keefe, Finkleseing & Gampel, 2005; Worley, Conners, Williams & Bokony, 2005). A call for multi-disciplinary teams that can share their expertise in terms of child welfare requirements and issues while concurrently treating the mother\u2019s substance abuse remains (Knoke, 2009). Once again, this reflects a pattern in the literature where the voices of women themselves are not represented.<\/p>\n

The Ramifications of Child Custody Loss<\/em><\/h1>\n

Child custody loss has profound ramifications. There is very little known about mothers who are recovering from addictions who lose custody of their children. For mothers, the consequences of court-mandated treatment can leave them feeling powerless and victimized (Burman, 2004). Experiencing being labelled an \u201cunfit mother\u201d similarly results in intensified levels of stress, denial, depression, anger, and intense emotional pain (Barry, 2006b; Concoran, 2001; Shillington, Hohman & Jones, 2001). This emotional pain can become even more pronounced when a mother loses custody (Barry, 2006b). Further, the emotional turmoil often triggers increased impulses to seek relief through substance use (Schleuderer & Campangna, 2002) and feelings of traumatisation intensify (Rockhill et al., 2008). Custody loss severely undermines a recovering mother\u2019s hope that her children will ever be returned to her (Rockhill et al., 2008). Irwin et al.\u2019s (2002) research revealed that having children physically with her gives mothers the strength to make difficult decisions. The children act as a major motivator to continue recovery (Grella, 2008; Kovalesky, 2001) and as such custody loss can have a significant impact on mothers\u2019 efforts to recover.<\/p>\n

Resilience<\/em> in Recovering Mothers<\/em><\/h1>\n

There are only a handful of studies addressing resilience in recovering mothers. Despite the paucity of research, the results of these studies offer more insight into these women\u2019s\u2019 lives. Recently, Sutherland, Cook, Stetina & Hernandez (2009) looked at problem solving skills and coping strategies as a measure of resilience in addicted and non-addicted mothers. They found that recovering women overall are less resilient than their counterparts who are not chemically dependent. However these researchers also found that the very custodial status of a mother\u2019s children seemed to be protective: recovering mothers who had custody of their children had greater treatment completions and decreased substance use in the post-recovery period.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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In an earlier study, Hardesty and Black (1999) also identified that the presence of children became the marker of successful recovery where \u201cmotherhood served as a survival strategy\u201d (p. 609). Children consistently remained a central focus in the lives of their mothers\u2014even when custody was lost permanently. The emotional bonds created a sense of permanency as the mothers focused on what they viewed as a temporary physical separation. The primary motive of recovery then became a regaining and re-claiming of their children. Consistently, the mothers in this study reported that the worst possible outcome that could occur was having their children taken away permanently.<\/p>\n

Paris and Bradley (2001) found mothers who had lost custody of their children told stories of \u201chope and resilience\u201d (p. 663). Both Hardesty and Black (1999) and Paris and Bradley (2001) cited that a fundamental task of recovery was re-negotiating a maternal identity. Mohatt, Rasmuss, Thomas, Allen, Hazel and Marlatt\u2019s (2007) study reaffirmed Hardesty and Black\u2019s (1999) conclusions that resilience in addicted mothers was tied to a sense of interconnectedness with family\/kin. Despite this interconnectedness, mothers are still ultimately positioned within a no-win situation.<\/p>\n

Both the courts and addiction treatment centers desire early reunifications, but reunifications are hampered by the short timelines that currently exist within the judicial system (Hohman & Butt, 2001). Mothers feel substantial pressure to improve their parenting abilities and to stabilize their lives. But the very requirements for programs and services that are meant to help addicted mothers are \u201cambiguous, incomprehensible, or put [the mothers themselves] at risk\u201d (Reid et al., 2008, p. 224). The social services system for addicted mothers is \u201call-powerful,\u201d and a source of \u201cconstant surveillance\u201d as mothers live under the relentless \u201cthreat of having their children apprehended\u201d which results in a \u201cconstant source of fear which instilled distrust and powerlessness in the face of \u201d social services (p. 224).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Attempts to use their identities as mothers to drive their recovery may become focused on constantly renegotiating the meaning of what it means to be a \u2018good\u2019 mother. There exists a platform where the labels of \u2018good mother\u2019 and \u2018bad mother\u2019 exist almost simultaneously in the literature. Hardesty and Black (1999) explain that an addicted mother needs to retain a \u201cview of self as a good mother despite the addition\u2026 as a self-survival tool\u201d (p. 609) and without this image she falls into a \u201cnumbing surrender to self-destruction\u201d (p. 607). The literature is divided on the parenting capabilities of addicted mothers as well as the presence\/ absence of healthy relationships with their children (Doris et al., 2006; Huxley & Foulger, 2008). Thus, creating a definitive and accurate portrait of a typical addicted mother is difficult. Despite inconsistencies among research findings, existing literature does provide us with a picture of recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children as women who feel deeply ambiguous. The aim of our study was to expand understanding of this ambiguity and for us to provide a platform to give voice to recovering mothers who may have been \u2018silenced\u2019 as a result of losing their children. As Davis and Dodd (2002) assert, \u2018silence\u2019 remains a significant barrier to understanding women\u2019s experiences, especially in sensitive-topic research. In sum, this literature review reveals much professional dialogue rather than the women\u2019s own voices.<\/p>\n

The Research Approach
\n<\/em>Feminist<\/em> Paradigmatic<\/em> and Theoretical Assumptions<\/em><\/h1>\n

The feminist paradigm is considered to either fall beneath the umbrella of the interpretive paradigm (Jansen & Davis, 1998), deemed as a theory (Creswell, 2007), or stand on its own as a distinctive worldview (Wilkinson & Morton, 2007). As a paradigm, feminist ontology theorizes \u201cbeing\u201d and in doing so rejects Cartesian duality and instead focuses on body, mind and emotion (Stanley & Wise, 1993). Stanley and Wise (1993) describe reality in this sense as the \u2018self \u2019 where reality is \u201crelationally and interactionally composed\u201d, having historic, contextual, and cultural influences where reality \u201csubtly change[s] in different interactional circumstances\u201d (p. 195).   In relation to epistemology, the most central concept relates to there being a \u201csituated knower\u201d and therefore \u201csituated knowledge\u201d (Stanford University, 2009). The relationship between the known and the knower therefore, is one of establishing a mutual conversational relationship of trust where the \u2018known\u2019 discloses his\/her own personal experiences in an effort to be transparent, and the \u2018knower\u2019 in reciprocity is empowered, validated, and strengthened as she shares her experiences (Jansen & Davis, 1998).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Key assumptions of an interpretive-feminist paradigm are: the acknowledgement of the pervasive influence of gender, a primary focus on \u201cconsciousness raising\u201d, a rejection of a separation of subject\/ object, denunciation of the \u201cassumption that most personal experience is unscientific\u201d, an unwavering concern for ethical implications of one\u2019s research, and unequivocally (through research) women can be empowered and transformed (Milojevic et al., 2008 p. 8). Frisby et al. (2009) further add that as \u201cmultiple sources of oppression are embodied and experienced on a daily basis\u201d (p. 19-20) by women, an assumption exists that a feminist paradigm creates a meaningful framework for making \u201csense of the physical, spiritual, and social worlds and for envisioning meaningful actions for social changes\u201d (p. 15). Finally, Milojevic et al. (2008) cites that the feminist worldview is a means for \u201caltering\u201d the human condition.<\/p>\n

Feminist<\/em> Interpretive Inquiry<\/em><\/h1>\n

Feminist interpretive inquiry has an end result of a conscious mindfulness of power in terms of gender, but also promotes trust, creates a platform for individual stories to be told, and allows for holistic findings that are not necessarily captured by qualitative research (Elmir, Schmied, Jackson & Wilkes, 2009; Jansen & Davis, 1998). One of the key strengths of feminist inquiry as the giving of voice to voiceless silenced populations (Frisby et al., 2009; Oakley, 1998) who have lived under a \u201cframework of invisibility, marginalization and powerlessness\u201d (Jansen & Davis, 1998, p. 294). Jansen and Davis (1998) cite other strengths of feminist interpretive inquiry such as: supplying the context of the experience, focusing on the strengths of the participants, diminishing hierarchy, de-emphasizing hierarchy, promoting an atmosphere of mutual understanding by allowing the participants to share in the experiences of the researcher, and signalling a non-judgemental stance.<\/p>\n

Oakley (1998) cites that the primary limitations of the feminist paradigm are bias and validity. Although the intentions of qualitative research exclude generalizability, a small sample size can signal bias in terms of false inferences when viewing the placement of the story in a wider social and political context (Oakley, 1998; Skene, 2007). Validity can come into question in terms of the veracity of the participant\u2019s stories (Oakley, 1998; Porter, 2007). Feminist researchers \u201cchallenge detachment and objectivity\u201d which may be seen as a bias within itself where the researcher seeks to understand the ways that a research topic is \u201cautobiographical\u201d (Glense, 2006, p. 119).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Hermeneutic<\/em> Phenomenology
\n<\/em>Hermeneutical<\/em> Paradigmatic<\/em> and Theoretical Assumptions<\/em><\/h1>\n

Hermeneutics is grounded in the interpretive paradigm (Rapport & Wainwright, 2006) which encompasses distinctive assumptions related to ontology, epistemology, and methodology (Koch, 1996; Shah & Corley, 2006). The ontology of hermeneutics is a conviction that truth is founded on relativism where truth is \u201ccomposed of multiple local and specific realities\u201d (Weaver & Olson, 2006, p. 462). Epistemologically, reality is established intersubjectively or with a \u201cshared subjective awareness and understanding\u201d (p. 462). Methodology reflects the progression of constant revision where theory emerges inductively and the principal goals are understanding and change in a social world that esteems the promotion of practical knowledge.<\/p>\n

Key assumptions of interpretive inquiry include: understanding as a key outcome, a acceptance that the world is contextual, holistic inquiry, narrative description, investigation as context laden, theory and practice being interactive and specific, and the presence of a participator- researcher relationship (Bridges, n.d.). Assumptions that are explicit to hermeneutics are: the existence of a distinct interpretation (Shah & Corley, 2006), common life experiences presenting a fertile medium for the study of meaning, a focus on human experience rather than conscious understanding, and the \u201cpresupposition of expert knowledge on the part of the researcher\u201d being a \u201cvaluable guide to inquiry\u201d (Lopez & Willis, 2004, p. 729).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Melding<\/em> Hermeneutic Phenomenology with Feminist Interpretive Inquiry<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

A melding of hermeneutic phenomenology with interpretive feminist inquiry complements hermeneutic phenomenology in several ways. \u201cHermeneutic phenomenology [from the perspective of van Manen (1997)] is quite amenable to feminist forms of knowing, inquiry and writing\u201d (p. xviii). Both are based upon the construct of \u201cbeing\u201d (Stanely & Wise, 1993; Heidegger, 1962). Ceci (2003) describes that \u201cfacets of feminist thought…have drawn attention to the politics of knowledge through theorizing the significance and the situatedness of knowers and knowledge\u201d and thereby by viewing our characters as \u201cmeaning- constituting [it stresses] the interpretive nature of our being in the world\u201d (p. 63). Hermeneutical phenomenology as a \u201cphilosophy of actions\u201d has the potential to not only \u201cradicalize thought\u201d but make a difference in the world (van Manen, 1997) by giving voice to the women who may feel \u201csilenced\u201d as a result of losing their children (Davies & Dodd, 2002). This is highly congruent with the aims of feminist thought where \u201cfeminism is a program for social change… and [offers an] alternative vision [for] the future\u201d (Milojevic et al., 2008, p. 1).<\/p>\n

Rather than the theoretical, abstract detachment that is characteristic of empirical research, hermeneutics is both a science and art form where the researcher and the researched, as co-creators, intimately engage with each other in the \u201cpragmatic and poetical\u201d (Barnacle, 2001; Litchman, n.d.). Interpretive feminism enhances this view where researcher and researched meet on equal ground. \u201cTrust is built not just for the purpose of collecting meaningful data, but for a human purpose in relationships\u201d which sees the participant and the researcher \u201cenrich each other\u2019s lives\u201d (Jansen & Davis, 1998, p. 308). Finally we believe, as did Heidegger (1962), that it is impossible to bracket one\u2019s own life experiences, values and assumptions\u2014 a conviction that the writers\u2019 own \u201clife-worlds\u201d can enhance the study as the research process unfolds\u2014a precept held in high regard within the interpretive feminist paradigm.<\/p>\n

Additional<\/em> Considerations of Research
\nResearcher Subjectivity<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

When choosing a phenomenological tradition for this research, immediately the question of researcher subjectivity arose. In the Husseralian tradition, the researcher brackets his\/her pre-understandings and in effect \u2018divorce\u2019s\u2019 the research from these influences (Smythe, Ironside, Simms, Swensen & Spence, 2008). We felt it was impossible to tell the \u2018story\u2019 without recognizing that we are both mothers and that being a mother and caring for our children is at the heart of all we do. Deciding to use van Manen\u2019s (1997) method was conducive to this end as our experiences are honored and valued in this phenomenological tradition. Investigating the experience as it was lived involved using our own personal experience as a point of departure. Personal experience is considered by van Manen to contribute and not detract from the research process as possibilities were opened up and kept open. This allowed us, as researchers, to exact \u2018clues\u2019 for orientating ourselves to the phenomenon and further connection with all the other phases or steps in the research process (van Manen, 1997).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Sensitive topic research \u201ccreates a space for self-disclosure by the researcher that might not be appropriate in other types of research\u201d (Dickson-Swift, James, Kippen & Liamputtong, 2006, p. 857). The purposes of self-disclosure \u201clevel[ed] the playing field\u201d (p. 857). For us as researchers, it also \u201clevel[ed] the power relationship between researcher and participant\u201d (Shields & Dicicco, 2011, p. 496).<\/p>\n

Li (2002) explains that \u201cby being able to share with others our own feelings, experiences and secrets in this world, we also encounter the other person\u2019s secrets and vulnerabilities of which we must be respectful\u201d (p. 94). By sharing our \u2018sacred\u2019 experiences, the women were invited to share their \u2018sacred\u2019 experiences. This potentially allowed a deeper sharing of experiences, feelings, and meaning.<\/p>\n

The Use of Interpretive Poetry<\/em><\/h1>\n

For van Manen (2007) telling the \u2018story\u2019 becomes balanced and enhanced by the use of literature (phenomenological and otherwise), the arts (such as poetry), etymological sources of words, and biography. Utilizing these sources of data, results in more reflective depth, promotes dialogue, and assists the researcher and reader of the research to potentially see beyond (their) \u201climits\u201d and to \u201ctranscend beyond the limits of (their) interpretive sensibilities\u201d (van Manen, 1990, p. 74-76). Perry suggests that \u201cto provide a hermeneutic analysis\u2026[poems express] the nucleus or heart of the narrative\u201d (p.134). Kockleman (1987) supports this view:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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In the human reality there are certain phenomena which reach so deeply into a [person\u2019s] life and the world in which [they] live that poetic language is the only adequate way through which to point to and make present a meaning which we are unable to express in any other way. (p. ix)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cPoetry [then becomes] appropriate medium of analysis as it bridges non- verbal and verbal expression and it allows for communication in succinct and creative ways\u2026 expos[ing] the tacit, which is difficult to express otherwise\u201d (Perry, 1994, pp. 134-135). Interpretive poetry, written by researcher Katherine J. Janzen, became an integral part of the research process where \u201ctogether the narratives, poems and literature provide[d] an [enhanced] understanding\u201d (Perry, 1994) of the mothers\u2019 experiences where words alone would at times fail to capture the experiences and feelings of the participants.<\/p>\n

Research<\/em> Question<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

Our research asked the question: What is the lived experience of mothers in recovery who have lost custody of their children? <\/em>We used a hermeneutic phenomenological approach based on the work on Canadian phenomenologist Max van Manen (1997). Methodology includes elements of (1) philosophic structure, (2) essential assumptions of that framework and (3) the features of the human science perspective. Van Manen saw that phenomenology was a retrospective \u201cstudy of the lifeworld\u2014in the world as we immediately experience it pre-reflectively rather than as we conceptualize, categorize or reflect on it\u201d (p.9).<\/p>\n

The purpose of human science is to provide \u201cplausible insights\u201d to our everyday life experiences in terms of discovering the very \u201cessence\u201d of a phenomenon rather than pursuing explanations or control (van Manen, 1997). Rigour, exactness and precision are distinguished by human science\u2019s own criteria. Objectivity is realized in the researchers being \u201ctrue\u201d and \u201coriented\u201d to the \u201cobject being studied\u201d and subjectivity exists in terms of the researcher perceptiveness, insightfulness and discernment \u201cin order to… disclose the object in its fullest richness and greatest depth\u201d (p. 20). As a result, \u201cgrasping and formulating thematic understanding\u201d becomes \u201ca free act of \u2018seeing\u2019 meaning\u201d rather than a \u201crule-bound process\u201d (p. 79). Six research activities guide van Manen\u2019s human science research:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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(1) Turning to a phenomenon which seriously interests us and commits us to the world, (2) investigating the experience as it is lived rather than as we conceptualize it, (3) reflecting on essential themes which characterize the phenomenon, (4) describing the phenomenon through the art of writing and rewriting, (5) maintaining a strong and oriented pedagogical relation to the phenomenon, and (6) balancing the research context by considering both the whole and the parts. (p. 30-31)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sampling<\/em><\/h1>\n

Participants were selected from a purposive sample of English speaking mothers living in Western Canada who had a crack cocaine addiction. Inclusion criteria included: currently living in a residential addictions treatment centre and having one or more children who were not in the participant\u2019s custody during a period of active addiction. Mothers with severe mental health issues, and participants who were heavily medicated were excluded from the sample. A recruitment poster was placed in the host facility and participants contacted the researcher through the agency. All participants gave informed consent. The study protocols were approved by the University Research Ethics board and the Board of Directors at the host recovery institution. No compensation was given for participation in this study.<\/p>\n

Data<\/em> Collection<\/em><\/h1>\n

In-depth semi-structured interviews with four recovering mothers were undertaken over a five month period. Out of the four women who were interviewed, two had lost custody of their children permanently, one was still trying to regain custody, and one had recently received temporary custody while still facing imminent court proceedings related to custody issues. Face-to-face interviews with each participant lasting 45 minutes to one and three quarter hours were recorded on a digital recorder. Other sources of data which are consistent with van Manen\u2019s (1997) approach included the researchers\u2019 reflections, journal entries, etymological sources of words tied to the research, phenomenological literature and descriptions outside the context of the research such as readings and poetry. These additional representations of data were incorporated to provide context and support for the data.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Data<\/em> Analysis<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

A combination of manual and computer-assisted coding was undertaken utilizing QRS NVivo8 qualitative data analysis software (QRS International, 2009) to ascertain themes from the data. Using a dual method of analysis was advantageous as it did not estrange us from the data and allowed the data to be examined with both closeness and distance from the data which is essential in hermeneutic phenomenology. NVivo8 complemented this process with its excellent capabilities to cross-reference, annotate, and index the data. The data analysis as a result was richer and served to enforce analytic strategies that methodologically guide the hermeneutic research process (Seale & Gabon, 2004). Lincoln and Guba\u2019s (1985) techniques for operationalizing trustworthiness were employed in the process of data analysis. Member checks affirmed authenticity of the themes. Katherine Joyce Janzen wrote the poems. Van Manen\u2019s (1997) hermeneutic reduction strategies guided the data analysis.<\/p>\n

Findings<\/em><\/h1>\n

Staying true to van Manen\u2019s (1997) philosophy of \u201cthematic understanding\u201d being a goal of hermeneutic research (p. 79), three themes, each with three sub-themes emerged from the data. The three themes represent scenes or dimensions that the mothers passed through as they moved through the experience of child custody loss. These scences\u2014betrayal, soul-ache, and reclamation\u2014represented key stages in their experiences. Each scene was further divided into three sub-scenes which add additional filters to understand the elements of the scenes. The four stories of the women that were interviewed\u2014Charolette, Crystal, Cristine and Hanna (all pseudonyms which the mothers chose themselves)\u2014are described with illustrative quotes from the mothers which embodied their experiences. Interpretive poetry written by KJJ was used to provide another layer of depth and breadth to their stories (Perry, 2009).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Scene One: Betrayal<\/em><\/h1>\n

Est\u00e9s (2003) describes betrayals taking many forms\u2026 \u201croads not taken, paths that [are] cut off, ambushes.. or [even] deaths\u201d (p. 365). Betrayers (bitrayens<\/em>) mislead, deceive, and act as traitors (tradres<\/em>) to what and who individuals believe in and people and things accepted as truth. Betrayals and betrayers took many forms\u2014both animate and inanimate. The betrayers of the four mothers we interviewed were not always bodily betrayals but always betrayers of the soul and represented small deaths\u2014las meurtes chiquitas <\/em>and large deaths\u2014las meurtes grandotas <\/em>(Est\u00e9s, 2003). The primary betrayers became substances, self and others, and child welfare. Each betrayer exacted a price\u2014a price that came as a result of the mother\u2019s implicit trust in the betrayer. The following betrayals are explored using the mothers\u2019 own words and interpretive poetry.<\/p>\n

Substances<\/em><\/h1>\n

While each mother described crack cocaine as being her \u201cbest friend\u201d in a life that \u201crevolved around [their] addiction,\u201d mothers\u2019 were also very aware that over time crack was \u201cslowly destroying [their] soul.\u201d Their relationship with crack was understood as a progressive, destructive relationship. Charolette knew how deeply the addiction took over her life. \u201cI was so addicted. So addicted. And my addiction was so strong and intense and the negative talk, and it really weighed out, like really took over.\u201d Mothers were pinned between both lives\u2014that of a recovering mother and that of an addict. Said Crystal, \u201cI\u2019ve been clean for periods of my recovery…but it\u2019s always been like okay, my body would be in the door but my foot would be sticking out…\u201d Cristine sadly explained that conflict. \u201cBut it\u2019s hard when you feel stuck, right? Like what choice do you make? Do you make a choice to say goodbye to the addict or goodbye to your kid? It\u2019s not as simple as making that choice.\u201d Despite this conflict each women knew that the \u201cultimate\u201d outcome of being \u201con the streets [and using cocaine] was going to be death.\u201d While cocaine held the elusive promise of coping with their worlds, cocaine in the end would result in a last final betrayal\u2014the loss of their very lives.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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REALIZATION<\/em><\/h4>\n

The first time I met you
\nIt was so good
\nThe feeling I had
\nThat I lost years of my life
\nMaking love to you;
\nneeding you before all others.
\nSomehow you mocked me
\nAs I turned to you to solve life\u2019s problems.
\nI realize you have betrayed me
\nWith elusive promises
\nMy best, old friend\u2014cocaine.<\/p>\n

Self<\/em> and Others<\/em><\/h1>\n

Even with the presence of multiple betrayers these mother\u2019s single most significant betrayer was the mother herself. Charolette knew that she had betrayed herself. \u201cI fed into it. I made it more believing. I convinced myself about it. So I gave up more to life.\u201d Hanna knew that her decision making process was faulty when her children were apprehended. She relates, \u201cI didn\u2019t pick up the phone and call my treatment centre. I picked up the phone and called my drug dealer.\u201d<\/p>\n

There were also other multiple betrayers. Christine experienced this with her boyfriend, his parents and even her own parents thinking that they were 100% behind her and realizing this was not the case. Crystal was extremely surprised when her children were told she was their aunt. Hanna identified that others betrayed her with their attitudes about addiction. She felt she was shunned, even if others knew she was in recovery. Hanna explained that even her own mother was reluctant to hug her once she started using again…<\/p>\n

Yeah, what\u2019s that in the Bible? The disease you give, leprosy, you know that you\u2019re just contagious. And actually when I started using again I used to say that to my Mom. \u201cDon\u2019t worry, if you hug me, you\u2019re not going to catch an addiction.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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TREATCHERY<\/em><\/h4>\n

While you betray me
\nWith thoughts
\nWith words
\nWith actions
\nThe worst betrayer of me
\nIs me.<\/p>\n

Child Welfare<\/em><\/h1>\n

These women described valiant efforts to stay \u201cclean\u201d and adhere to the requirements of their child welfare worker in the belief that they would have their children returned to them. When they completed requirements, however, there were always more conditions imposed on them, which left them feeling confused, alone and discouraged. Charolette sorrowfully described the implicit trust she put in child welfare\u2014 \u201cI trusted them with my life and [the] lives [of my children] because I thought they were there for me. They didn\u2019t understand. I felt so alone at those times.\u201d Hanna described the process with child welfare as \u201cjump[ing] through hoops\u201d and then being given \u201c10 more.\u201d The decision to be honest about drug use was always a difficult one. Cristine knew the pain of betrayal… \u201cIt was tough, you know, like when they stepped in and it was like I was the bad guy because I was honest with them… I told them the circumstances, everything. It didn\u2019t matter.\u201d Charolette summarized the feelings of the mothers amid the tears that she cried\u2014\u201cThey won. They got what they wanted… Not once did I have a worker that supported me, that was there for me or that encouraged me to keep going to get my kids back. Not one. So I gave up.\u201d<\/p>\n

CIRCUS<\/em><\/h4>\n

I don\u2019t see it coming
\nAs I jump through hoops
\nPlaced before me
\nEach one higher
\nAnd in the end I fall.
\nDo I tell the truth
\nWhen it leaves me imprisoned;
\nTrapped Without an advocate?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Scene Two: Soul-ache<\/em> <\/em><\/h1>\n

GIVING UP<\/em><\/h4>\n

A terrible sadness comes in May
\nWith too much light and unreal green;
\nA sadness like a jail cell
\nWith no corner left to hide.
\nClearly I see a little face.
\nSoft eyelashes shade her cheeks
\nAnd she has such a trusting smile;
\nBeryl runs forever on a lawn-starred with dandelions.
\nAnd always she is six years old.
\nAgain she\u2019s asking what I cannot give,
\nThe pain, the tenderness is there once more
\nThe old reproach of selfishness.
\nWhile other people raised my child
\nI sought sanctuary in madness.<\/p>\n

(M.C. Jones, 1970, used with permission)<\/p>\n

Madness comes in many forms when trying to live with loss: seeking relief in continued use of substances, trying to end one\u2019s life, and falling into deep depression while struggling with living itself. Madness was found within the spaces of accountability\u2014where blame was situated for events that had happened. Eliot (1969) described this madness as \u201cthe pain of living and the drug of dreams,\u201d where one is \u201cneither living nor dead.\u201d (p. 38). This was the true space of soul-ache.<\/p>\n

The Moment of Loss<\/em><\/h1>\n

The very moment that the mothers\u2019 lost custody of their children represented a death for the women who remained\u2014deaths without funerals or spaces to mark them. This \u2018death without death\u2019 was considered worse than if their children had physically died. In many ways the mothers felt that they had themselves died right along with their children. Each woman could recall the moment of loss vividly.<\/p>\n

Charolette experienced the loss of her children in a court room where she voluntarily gave up custody. She had been battling her addictions and came to the point where she believed that there was no hope left for their return. She saw the decision as one of \u201cgiving up,\u201d a decision which \u201cbroke [her] heart.\u201d Crystal abandoned her children when she was 18 and left for another city when she didn\u2019t have enough food for her children and didn\u2019t know where to go for help. She felt she had \u201cfailed\u201d and \u201ccouldn\u2019t give [her] kids what they deserved.\u201d Cristine lost her son when he was 11 weeks old. She was trying to deal with post-partum depression and couldn\u2019t manage a little baby and the emotions that were surfacing related to the death of her first infant son. Hanna lost custody of her new born daughter in a hospital room. She related, \u201cI\u2019ve never cried so hard in my life. Like nothing breaks my heart more.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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WHITE CROSSES<\/em><\/h4>\n

I mark the spaces of soul-ache.
\nOne for each time my heart broke.<\/p>\n

Accountability<\/em><\/h1>\n

Each mother had great difficulty coming to terms with how accountable they were for the loss of their children. Crystal had no food for her children; Cristine was suffering from post-partum depression. Charolette had been beaten so badly by her husband that she had a brain injury; Hanna thought she would be able to make a decision of where her children were placed. Despite this, each woman came to accept her role in the loss of her children.<\/p>\n

Charolette relates that although she knew she \u201cwas a part of the problem of giving them up… all [she] knew was to use drugs.\u201d Cristine knew that her cocaine use was the direct reason for losing her two daughters, both of whom were born addicted to cocaine. She stated, \u201cIt cost me my life and my kids.\u201d The most difficult part of losing custody was, as Hanna explained, \u201cto know that [she] did it to [herself ].\u201d<\/p>\n

Living<\/em> with Loss<\/em><\/h1>\n

After the mothers lost custody of their children they went through a period in which they engaged more deeply with their addictions. It was a period of indifference in their lives\u2014lives which ceased to have meaning except by that defined by cocaine. For the women it was a downward spiral into \u201closing everything\u201d and \u201ccutting everyone out of their li[ves].\u201d Crystal described herself as being \u201cbroken.\u201d The depth of despair was overwhelming. Charolette knew in her heart that she totally \u201cgave up\u201d to the point she knew she would \u201cdie out there.\u201d Hanna described the deadly effect of losing her children…<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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No. I didn\u2019t feel like [living]. I felt that all the hope was gone. What did it matter? I might as well go die and that\u2019s what I tried to do. Like honestly, that\u2019s why I ended up in [hospital] because I tried to kill myself. My mom took me to the hospital and told them. You don\u2019t put her somewhere, she\u2019s going to be dead. And I probably would have been.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

THE VOID OF NOTHINGNESS<\/em><\/h4>\n

Her loss, like death, changes me
\nFor a time the very jaws of hell gape open
\nAnd I fall into darkness
\nUntil there is nothing
\nNo words
\nNo thoughts
\nNo soul.<\/p>\n

Scene Three: Reclamation<\/em><\/h1>\n

If soul-ache was the place of the soul that hovered between living and dying, then reclamation represented a place of rebirth where life was declared once more. This dawning hailed an entrance into a new stage in their lives\u2014one where hope began to exist again. Reclamation consisted of three areas: learning to live again, the perfect day, and reaching toward the future.<\/p>\n

Learning to Live Again<\/em><\/h1>\n

Learning to live again was a process for the mothers. Their hearts and souls began to be expanded. They began to feel hope which came from a place where each woman refused to believe that the separation from her children was permanent. They looked toward a both a future where that they would have relationships and contact with their children, and a present where they still saw themselves as mothers.<\/p>\n

Each mother emphatically and assuredly stated that \u201c[she] would always be their mother.\u201d Crystal firmly stated, \u201cNobody\u2019s going to change that, no matter what. Your children will always come back. Will always come back.\u201d Charolette held on to the belief that in the future, she would be able to have contact with her sons: \u201cAnother thing that keeps me going is that, knowing I\u2019m gonna\u2014that I can possibly one day see my boys. See my boys and talk to them, or even get a letter from them. It\u2019s a start.\u201d The mothers\u2019 fervent belief in God as their higher power had helped them and continued to help them regain not only their lives but their children.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Part of learning to live again was coming to terms with the role that child welfare had in their lives. Charolette expressed a sense of thankfulness for child welfare when she said, \u201c But yet I thank them. I thank them for the person I am now… I thank them because they\u2019re there. They gave me that push in life.\u201d Hanna summed it up this way\u2014<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t hate the system forever for wanting better for my children and taking them out of a negative environment… A child in an addictive atmosphere where there\u2019s drugs and alcohol going on is not a good place for them. So I can deal with that…<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A Perfect Day<\/em><\/h1>\n

Each woman was able to describe a perfect day with her children which provided the motivation that carried her forward into her recovery. These days were of normal activities, but were profound for the mother herself. For Cristine and Crystal it would have been just in the act of \u201cbeing with\u201d them and \u201cfeeling of their energy and love.\u201d The perfect day would be one of absorbing all the actions of their children as the children simply played around them.<\/p>\n

The power of touch was something that was sacred to these women and represented the greatest gift that they could be given on a perfect day with their children. Cristine\u2019s wish was just \u201cto hold\u201d them, while Crystal would simply want to \u201ctouch [their] faces.\u201d<\/p>\n

Hanna\u2019s description of what a perfect day would be for her was filled with a longing that was bittersweet:<\/p>\n

I think I would just hold her. So I would just hold her, and you know, I talk to their pictures every night. Clara…Clara she\u2019s just… my mom says she\u2019s just like me and it\u2019s true…with Clara I would just hold her, I think. I would just want to be alone with her. The same with Izzy. And just do what she wanted to do.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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THE VISIT<\/em><\/h4>\n

I touch your face
\nAnd you are real;
\nYou are here.
\nI cry
\nTears of heartache past,
\nTears of present;
\nTears of future hoped.<\/p>\n

R<\/em>eaching Toward the Future<\/em><\/h1>\n

Each of the mothers represented individuals who didn\u2019t just go on trying\u2014they were able to both conquer and reconcile a past that otherwise may have crippled them and to reach toward a future that had promise. Without the shackles of addiction their life had new freedom\u2014a freedom to dream; a freedom to become that which was in their imaginations. Many of the women\u2019s dreams centered on what most people take for granted: having a nice house, a good job, and spending time with their families. Charolette\u2019s dreams revolved around employment and her family with the resolve that she needed a secure job to \u201cbecome a mother again.\u201d Crystal\u2019s motivation was found in her children. \u201cEverything I do is because I want a better life for my children. In all instances… it\u2019s hope for my kids and grandkids.\u201d Cristine firmly recounted a simple truth\u2014<\/p>\n

For a long time I thought I was powerless, but you know what? For the first time in forever, I finally feel like I can do this because before I became overpowered by crack, I was an amazing person. I worked two jobs. I had my own place. I took care of my friends. Like I could do it… I could function and I could make it happen because I was strong and able. Well, I finally feel that way again so I can do it and I will… I will, for me and for my kids because without my kids, I don\u2019t have me and without me, I don\u2019t have my kids.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hanna echoed this when she said, \u201cI have my recovery. And with my recovery is going to come life, and with life comes my kids.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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RECLAMATION<\/em><\/h4>\n

Once imprisoned
\nI have broken free.
\nBefore me lies
\nMy children…
\nMy future.<\/p>\n

Discussion
\n<\/em>M<\/em>otivation to Remain in Treatment<\/em><\/h1>\n

Thoughts of their children remained a primary motivator for the mothers to remain in treatment. Even when mothers permanently lost custody, they looked to a day when their children would surround them. This is consistent with Ferraro and Moe\u2019s (2003) study where they found that \u201ceven when women\u2019s rights were terminated and [mothers] were prohibited from interaction with their children believed that they would be reunited one day\u2026\u201d \u201cThis connection [with their] children helped [them] to survive and look toward the future with hope\u201d (pp. 34-35). A \u2018perfect day\u2019 was conceptualized as a dream that she held close to her heart and soul and motivated her work not only toward recovery, but also how she lived her life. This dream provided a tangible foothold which brought forth the strength and \u201cfaith… [to] pursue a new direction (Jones, 2007, p. 207).<\/p>\n

The power of \u2018touch\u2019 was a concept which permeated each interview. Each woman dreamed of simply holding her children\u2014touching their faces. This image seemed to be healing for each of the women. Touch is considered to be both discriminative and emotional (McGlone, Vallbo, Olausson, Loken & Wessberg, 2007). Through touch emotions are communicated (Hertenstein, Holmes, McCullough & Keltner, 2009). It has been demonstrated that the sight of touch as well as the thought of touch light up the same areas in the brain in Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) and Positron Emission Tomography (PET) scans as if touch was occurring physically (McCabe, Rolls, Bilderbeck & McGlone, 2008; Seung-Schik, Freeman, McCarthyll & Jolesz, 2003). Touch, therefore may be both emotionally protective and simultaneously acting as a source of motivation for the mothers to continue in their recovery.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Redefining<\/em> Life<\/em> Without<\/em> Children<\/em><\/h1>\n

This study adds to the determination of what constitutes intense emotional pain (Barry, 2006b) in recovering mothers. The women in this study felt that custody loss was worse than if their children had died. This represents an ambiguous loss for these mothers (Betz & Thorngren, 2006).<\/p>\n

Ambiguous loss is a loss that doesn\u2019t fit within the traditional notion of death and are felt to be either loss where there is physical presence but psychological absence or physical absence but psychological presence. Recovering mothers who lose custody of their children fit into the latter category. This type of loss can be compared to a child that has been abducted, but in this case the child is apprehended. In this loss \u201cthe natural processes of their lives stop the day the child is\u201d apprehended (Betz & Throngren, 2006, p. 360). These losses find mothers \u201cstuck [in an] uncertainty of what their role is\u201d with subsequent feelings of \u201cpowerlessness, insecurity in their future… and examining [their] values and beliefs… calling into question who one truly is\u201d (p. 360). In addition, in ambiguous loss, the loss of role is mourned and creates a situation where a redefinition of relationship, roles and responsibilities presents itself to the bereaved.<\/p>\n

Ambiguous loss presents itself as a situation where there are no rituals for meaning-making and the loss is socially stigmatized (Betz & Thorngren, 2006). \u201cFor years [the mothers] may go through the cycle of hope only to be disappointed once again\u201d (p. 361) where the \u201cgrief can be exhausting\u201d (p. 362). Betz and Throngren note that \u201cwith [this] ambiguous loss the [mothers\u2019] cannot simply move on. Their immobility or inability to deal effectively with the situation becomes a combination of\u2026 feelings of failure [and] the impossibility of the situation that\u2026 leave[s] them powerless\u201d (p. 362).<\/p>\n

The death of a child is considered to be catastrophic (Craighead and Nemeroff, 2004) and the outcome for these women was indeed catastrophic. \u201cI felt that all hope was gone. What did it matter? I might as well just go and die…\u201d This wish to \u2018go and die\u2019 was acted upon as each of the mothers engaged deeper with their addictions\u2014consciously attempting to end their own lives with increased crack use.<\/p>\n

Carlson, Matto, Smith and Eversman (2006) describe mothers who lose custody of their children as experiencing \u201cintense emotional reactions\u201d where mothers may surrender to feelings of desperation. Wijngaards-de Meij et al. (2007) notes that outcomes of parental loss of a child can be parental mortality. Jiong, Precht, Mortensen and Olsen (2003) cite that mothers are particularly vulnerable in the first three years after a child\u2019s death and are at much higher risk of suicide than fathers. The loss of hope appears to be omnipresent whether the loss occurs because of custody loss or child mortality (Roberts, 1999).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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A grieving process ensued which was consistent with Florczak\u2019s (2008) notion of finding meaning in the loss of their children. The strength and courage to go onward could be considered to be \u201cpost- traumatic growth\u201d which is the \u201chighest form of change associated with grief \u201d (Tedeschi & Calhoun, 2008, p. 31). Resilience was a demonstrated outcome where maladaptive coping (Sutherland, 2009) gave way to behaviours consistent with not only life and living, but also living well, which seemed to be tied to the ability to have hope, goals, and dreams.<\/p>\n

Re-conceptualization<\/em> of Life and Role<\/em><\/h1>\n

While the literature points to recovering mothers re-conceptualizing their identity as mothers (Paris & Bradley, 2000; Sutherland et al., 2009) our study supported that it was their role <\/em>as mothers that was reconceptualized. Each of the women had a firm belief they were still mothers despite the loss of their children. This kept their identities as mothers intact. Hence it was not their identity that was relinquished when they lost custody but a process of renegotiation of role and what that role looked like. This role was primarily influenced by what having contact with their children would look like in terms of capacities and activities.<\/p>\n

Making<\/em> Sense of Losing Children<\/em><\/h1>\n

Frankl (2006) found that finding meaning is integrally \u201cunique and specific\u201d to those that seek it. A recovering mother appears to make sense of losing custody when she accepts accountability for the loss of her children. Part of making sense was accepting that \u201cmistakes\u201d were made and moving onward despite those mistakes. Cristine said, \u201cWhatever I have to live today, I can\u2019t worry about yesterday… I know that what I did yesterday is going to affect my tomorrow, but right now I can just be here.\u201d<\/p>\n

A solid relationship with their higher power was a lifeline for these women. The concept of a higher power is synonymous with recovery programs (McGee, 2000; Ronel, 2000). Brome, Owens, Allen and Vevania\u2019s (2000) study revealed that a relationship with a higher power resulted in \u201cmore positive self-appraisals, more positive relationships with others, and an empowering coping stance\u201d (p. 482).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Courage<\/em> in the Face of Social and Societal Adversity<\/em><\/h1>\n

The presence of the kind of social and societal adversity these women experienced is supported in the literature (Aston, 2009; Poole & Greaves, 2009). The mothers faced considerable mixed messages from both society and the institutions that served them. These conflicting messages had a significant impact when one considers the recovering mother\u2019s efforts to use motherhood as a driver to recover. These ambiguities left them with a considerable burden to carry\u2014furthering feelings of being lost, confused, and alone. These mothers valiantly tried to change their lives in the face of complex ever changing \u2018rules\u2019\u2014always hoping that adherence to these conditions would result in the return of their children.<\/p>\n

As Powis et al. (2000) note there is a definite struggle between using drugs and keeping custody of one\u2019s children. What this study adds is that there comes a time when mothers ultimately make this decision. This \u2018giving up\u2019 could be understood as a process of deliberation which is influenced on many fronts but primarily by the betrayals they experienced. The literature is clear that child welfare workers have an impact on recovering mothers who lose custody of their children (Poole & Greaves, 2009; Reid et al., 2008). What emerged from our study was that betrayal was not framed singularly from child welfare workers. Rather, betrayal was multidimensional and included substances, significant others, and the mother herself. While the findings support that literature which describes addicted women as seeing themselves as thwarted and punished (Reid et al., 2008) what is further gained from this study is the magnitude of the impact that others have upon them. In Charolette\u2019s words, \u201cA mother will lose her life.\u201d<\/p>\n

While Aston (2009) notes that addicted women learn to \u201chail\u201d themselves as addicts, what gave the women the courage to persevere despite the reactions of others was a central belief that, in the words of one of the women in this research, they were \u201cnot the addiction\u201d but the \u201cperson behind the addiction.\u201d They were first and foremost human beings. This adds to current knowledge that even in their darkest moments, their identity was not solely reflective of their addiction.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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As we listened to our participants\u2019 stories about their children and their treatment, we were struck by their courage in both the very thoughts of their children and in the philosophies of the addiction treatment center which they resided. Each woman felt she had been loved and supported as she progressed through recovery. All of the women noted they were \u201cloved\u201d until they could once more love themselves. This is consistent with what Kearney (1998) saw as \u201ctruthful self-nurturing\u201d and what Aston (2009) described as recovery assisting mothers to see themselves differently. The mothers experienced truthful other<\/em>-nurturing until they could truthfully self-<\/em>nurture. What this adds to current knowledge is that Maslow\u2019s (Boeree, 2006) basic human needs\u2014even in recovery\u2014extend beyond physiological and safety needs and are seen within the seeds of being esteemed, belonging, affection, and most importantly being loved.<\/p>\n

Strengths<\/em> and Limitations<\/em><\/h1>\n

Although generalization is not an aim of qualitative research, a limitation of this study is a lack of generalizability. However, the goal of this research was not generalizability, but transferability (Glesne, 2006). Studies which have small samples are thought to \u201c…deepen understanding and build breadth into their investigation through mindfulness of other work in the field. Thus… just one \u2018case\u2019 can lead to new insights… if it is recognized that any such case is an instance of social reality\u201d ( Crouch & McKenzie, 2006, p. 498). Although this study had a small sample, with any study there are considered to be tradeoffs between depth and breadth (Patton, 2002). With this in mind, the aim of our study was to explore in detail the lived experience of recovering mothers who had lost custody of their children, or in other words, to seek depth. The breadth of this study could be reflected in the provision of associated literature and first examining disciplinary knowledge in the form of a literature review and then, situating findings in the context of that literature.<\/p>\n

Recommendations<\/em><\/h1>\n

There are several recommendations that arise from our research. For mothers in recovery, the ability to hold or touch their children, even if only in their minds, embodied motivation for the mothers. Guided imagery that simulates the experiences of holding or touching their children may be valuable as a modality to sustain both well being and motivation in recovering mothers.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Tedeschi and Calhoun (2008) note that \u201cthe encounter with major losses teaches the bitter lesson that the individual is vulnerable to experiencing great suffering\u201d upon the death of a loved one (p. 33). For mothers, this represented a figurative death. Losing custody can be viewed as an ambiguous loss resulting in disenfranchised grief in a society that does not recognize the immense suffering of mothers who lose custody of their children (Betz & Thorngren, 2006; Hazen, 2003). Grief counselling represents a viable strategy that could be easily undertaken as part of treatment in addictions recovery. Given the course of self-destruction that mothers engage in after losing custody, this may act as a buffer and provide new strategies to cope with the loss of their children and potentially decrease the risk of suicide.<\/p>\n

The loss of custody has a profound impact on mothers. Hope is both lost and regained through the belief of others. Those who occupy positions of power, such as physicians, nurses, child welfare workers and addictions counsellors are called upon promote and communicate a sense of belief in an addicted mother to recover. Utilizing a strength-based perspective, examining personal belief and value systems as human beings and as professionals, as well as negotiating the underlying philosophies of their professions may do more to assist these mothers than any other single force in the recovering mother\u2019s lives. Perhaps only then will society and social institutions begin to create a \u201cjust and equitable\u201d system (Kruk, 2008) that meets recovering mothers \u201cwhere they are at\u201d (Kullar, 2009, p. 10).<\/p>\n

This begins with giving voice to mothers who have lost custody of their children and providing opportunities for dialogue. Instead of viewing these mothers as \u2018good\u2019 or \u2018bad\u2019 perhaps it is time to see addicted mothers as human beings with strengths and frailties\u2014and the capacity to change their lives given appropriate supports and resources. Examining personal and professional belief systems may help professionals and institutions realize inconsistencies between their practices and values which may have served to penalize and subjugate addicted mothers in the mother\u2019s efforts to recover. The single phrase, \u201cbelieve in me,\u201d spoken of by one the mothers in this research, may have more power to change lives when acted upon by those who can and should enact change in our societal structures than any other phrase these mothers could utter.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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SHERPA<\/em><\/h4>\n

Believe in me.
\nI am not the addiction.
\nI am the woman behind the addiction.
\nI laugh. I cry.
\nI hurt.
\nI need you
\nTo be my guide
\nAs I climb
\nOver mountains
\nThat rise above me.
\nWithout you I falter.
\nWithout you I fail.
\nBelieve in me.<\/p>\n

Conclusions<\/em><\/h1>\n

Human suffering can take many forms. For mothers with addictions the loss of custody of their children represents a dark, deadly period in their lives where there is intense suffering and pain. From a humanitarian perspective, this research has invited the reader to vicariously experience, through the stories of the mothers, the experience of child custody loss. While the reader may find this paper disturbing and unsettling, a bird\u2019s eye view of the pain, grief, and loss of recovering mothers becomes very \u2018real.\u2019 Perhaps more importantly, the message\u2014that recovering mothers can recover from this loss\u2014is paramount. Ultimately, the use of our findings has the potential to be influential as professionals consider their own practices, identify their beliefs and values surrounding addicted mothers in recovery, and perhaps as a result, take the first steps towards enacting social and disciplinary change.<\/p>\n

Our research underscores the multiple contextual factors that are associated with substance abuse in mothers as well as their journeys to recovery. There exists a need to look at recovering mothers who have lost custody of their children in a holistic sense while trying to ascertain influences that affect their drug use and subsequent custody loss. Examining the experiences of recovering mothers who have lost custody provides further insights that identify the needs of recovering mothers and the processes they go through in their journey to reclaim their lives. We hope that with further research, these processes will become better understood and assist in the progressive determination of policy and treatment options.<\/p>\n

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